Ideas for going on a date

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So i am currently in the stages of asking this girl out. The only thing stopping me is what should we do? We're both eighteen and she's rather conservative in taste so any ideas?

I just want to put a disclaimer that I suck at the dating thing, but I'm presenting my ideas anyway. I think going to a movie would be a good date. Or renting a movie. Or a common activity you both like, say for instance, laser tag. Doing something rather than sitting around not making small talk

Do you know what she likes? Dinner and a movie are the stereotypical date, but I don't know many girls who would actually choose that as a date. More importantly than what you do on the date is if she has fun, so pick something that will keep you guys talking. A guy took me geocaching and while it was a creative date, we spent most of the time walking/following a compass than holding a conversation.

Okay, so, I've never actually been on a date but I have a bunch of friends who have complained about/ discussed the subject and I felt their perspective might be useful in that they are also rather conservative girls. What you're going to want to do on the date is talk. And I don't mean small talk either. You're going to want to talk about things that are important to you and her. Dating is about getting to know each other and so when you pick a place to go you're going to want to pick a place that you can talk at. For instance, don't go to the theatre. I know it's a basic date sort of place but you sit next to each other in silence for a couple hours and then you part ways. The only thing you learn about the other person is whether they fall asleep during movies or not.

Dating is not something you should spend a lot of money doing if you can help it. Often the simplest dates are the most memorable. My roommate, for example, loves to go on walks. She and a guy will just walk and talk for hours with no real destination and connect about life and she says this is her favorite thing because she feels like she's really getting to know them which is important if the relationship is to go anywhere. She also says that eating with people is important to her. If she doesn't feel comfortable eating with someone she says she doesn't consider them a friend. I know a lot of other people share this sentiment. So, going out to eat is always an option. Or combining the two somehow. Walk to where you're eating? Also, like Meqz said, if there is an activity that you both like then go for it. Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes either. She's just as capable of planning things for you two to do as you are.

So what does she like? Ask her to church if you have to, or a museum or an art gallery.

Otherwise ask her to a football match or to go bungee jumping or playing mini-golf or watching drag races.

A "date" doesn't have to be dinner or a movie. That is so obvious and open to embarrassment.

Say "Hey Sally. I am going to the pistol range on Saturday. Do you want to come? It will be great fun"

AVOID THE WHOLE IDEA OF A "DATE".

You are a cool guy. You do cool and fun things. You think she might be interested in joining you but you don't really care because you lead such a cool life.

Do NOT come to her like a total loser and beg her to have dinner with you.