Would anyone here attempt to date another WPer?

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I think a lot of it has to do with not being able to recognize AS traits with people in person, plus the fact that some of the people on here have very few (if any) interests that don't involve a computer.

You probably had bad luck.

I think that as some user mentioned before its important that you test the water first on the forum before pming someone.

A few months ago I received a somewhat flirtatious/joking message from a female member(she is married so I didnt take it seriously) and I just laughed and replied back. Since then we have sent each other several messages trying to get to know each other better.

This happened after we have spent sometime talking on the boards, if I received a similar message from a random member Ill probably try to tell the other person politely that Im not interested.

Internet relationships can be weird but if you are unable to stablish one IRL they may be a good option. From what Ive experienced after a short period you start developing some feelings for the other person that arent too different from the ones that you would feel on any other relationship.

I tried internet dating and for a while it worked(a few times), but after sometime the other person and i grew apart so I decided that internet dating isnt different to normal dating and I´d rather be able to see the person Im dating for a while.

I would be totally open, but there are three dealbreakers I have:

1. Asexual
2. Doesn't want kids
3. Doesn't like to travel (i.e. only thinks of a vacation as "no computer or video games for x number of days")

Oh, right. Yes, that I do agree with. I've heard the expression, before, but I was not really familiar with it. Yes, a person like me is indeed in the search for a rather unique individual...

I like the way the title of this thread sounds.

I dunno why but reading it gives me the impression that to even attempt such a pursuit would be of great danger that would put your in immediate mortal peril.

Would anyone here have the balls to date....ANOTHER WPer?!

Like somehow the Earth would shatter or a rift would open in the space time continuim

It does happen, but it's quite rare since most WPers live pretty far apart.

There's plenty of nice and interesting ladies here that I would gladly date if possible.

It's something I considered before I joined. I've since been warned that all the women here have cooties - so probably not.

And the ladies should exercise caution if they are contacted by a man here, but that doesn't mean you should freak out on them - unless they start talking about potted plants, those are the guys to be wary of.

I like you guys, but I would prefer not to date an Aspie to be honest.
(not that I'm opposed to dating an Aspie girl)

I think there are any number of reasons you may have gotten the response you did.

1. It depends on who you propositioned. If it was someone who gets propositioned a lot, they may react more harshly.

2. How you worded it. You said you were respectful, and I have no doubt you thought you were, but you may have come across in some really bad way without realizing it - if I know anything about AS it's that most of the time you come across as different to what you think you come across as, or are trying to come across as.

3. They may have felt overwhelmed, threatened, or invaded, and not known how to deal with your message. They may have experienced overwhelming anxiety and lashed out without thinking.

There are other reasons. Just don't take it personally.