Would you ever consider cheating?

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I made a thread in the PPR forum once about if cheating should be illegal and most said no. Now, of course, this question is different from the other one and I want to see if people would say no on a PERSONAL level.

Please vote!!

This is one of those many things which I'm aware other people do, but which would never occur to me as a possibility.

sorry, i voted "maybe", but i didn't realise what forum this was in (im subscribed to the RSS feed)

i thought u were talking about monopoly or something

in a relationship the answer is no absolutely not never ever no way hose.

Never. But then again, I've reached the point that I now avoid monogamy at all costs anyway, haha.

No. I would never do that. I don't think it should be illegal, because that's just silly. But personally, no.

I might. I've been in bad relationships and been in relationships where i wasnt getting what i needed. I wouldn't plan on it, but who ever really does.

I would say no. I've been cheated on, and it wasn't the best feeling to have, so I wouldn't want to do it to someone else. When I was with my ex, I told him straight up that I would never cheat on him, and that if there ever came a time where I felt the desire to have sex with someone else, I'd tell him and I expected the same from him. And when that time came when I did want to be with someone else, we discussed it and decided that we would try an open marriage. However, I cannot say that my ex relationship was anything even remotely close to 'normal'...how many guys do u know that would say 'go for it' if their wife (of less than 6 months) asked to start sleeping with others??

My marriage is another story altogether!

As for my current partner...I have absolutely no reason in the world to go somewhere else...he meets all of my needs and then some! I am a very lucky woman and would be an idiot to walk away from what I have, or to throw it away on meaningless sex which wouldn't be nearly as good anyways, so what's the point?

If I was lucky enough to have a partner; I could not imagine being with someone else & the thought of them cheating is excruciatingly painful to me. Plus the odds of me actually being lucky enough to have someone are next to impossible so I imagine that if I did have someone; I would not have an opportunity to cheat & if I did; I sure as hell would not want to risk screwing my realtionship up

No.

No. The guilt would literally kill me. I don't invite pain into my life in exchange for (likely) bad sex. I don't see the up-side.

^^ Agreed! There is no winner in a situation like this. Honesty is always the best policy IMO. I'm thinking that if u r wanting to go outside ur relationship for the things u should be getting within it, u really shouldn't be together...it was certainly true in my experience.

I've had the opportunity in the past, but couldn't stop thinking about my partner and how much it would hurt her. Didn't do it and it wasn't particularly difficult.

I've been on the receiving end though, and that time I was married.

Would I consider it? Yes, of course I would. I consider everything. Would I do it? Hell no. First of all, I don't like the idea of an exclusive relationship to begin with, because I think it's selfish, and this is why. If I'm dating someone who wants to have sex, and I don't want to have sex, then who am I to tell her what to do? If she is horny... Second of all, if I was to be in a relationship like that, I will have already considered these things, so obviously I would be OK with monogamy, otherwise I wouldn't waste my time. Cheating is about sex anyway, and I'm not very sexual to begin with.

Cheating is not an option for me when I have committed to be in an exclusive, committed, romantic relationship.

If you loved someone enough in the first place to commit to make love only to them by choice - then one would hope you care enough about them (and respect them enough) to tell them you want to end the relationship before you become intimate with someone else!

As always honesty is the best policy!

Not an option for me. Anyone I would be able to love (which to me is a requirement if a woman wants to be my gf for whatever reason) will have already earned my loyalty. Friends, some family, and lovers all need to earn that loyalty, but once earned, unless they betray that loyalty, they will have that loyalty forever. Take my ex for example. While she did break up with me, she never betrayed me throughout it, so while I might not even talk to her much or even associate with her lately, I still would never betray her emotionally...

And that loyalty to those that have earned it is the one part of my personality that doesn't waver. Cheating in the emotional and sexual sense is literally against my wiring; it's more likely that I could approach a complete stranger for no reason than I could cheat on a partner.

On the other hand, cheating in the academic sense I engaged in a few times when I was in middle school and high school. I never used illicit means to improve my own scores, and never plagiarized a paper. However, I was caught a few times giving away test answers to others (often people that earned said loyalty above).