tell me what you think about my situation

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Okay, let me just give you some background about myself.

I'm currently a high school student. Top of the class. I'm a nerd for sure. I compete in science fairs, do math competitions, etc. However, I'm also pretty athletic. I am one of the better runners in the area.



From a theoretical standpoint, I'm not really sure why, socially, I am the way I am. I guess if you described me by the things I do, you wouldn't really expect me to be an Aspie or have Aspie-like symptoms. I can't deal with eye contact except with a few people. I have difficulty with people touching me. I often don't understand tone of voice and humor.

So here is my predicament. Throughout high school I have only talked comfortably to maybe two people. I mind my own business, eat lunch alone, and not bothering anyone. Recently, a group of popular and attractive girls have been sitting next to me at lunch. Some of them ask me out on dates (jokingly I would presume) and ask me what I did over the weekend, etc. I know they're making fun of me for being weird or whatever but I don't know how to stop it. It makes me feel like crap. I'm just sitting and eating lunch, and suddenly these girls feel the need to make fun of the fact that I I'm not exactly the most desirable male on the face of the planet. I don't know how to make them go away?

I always have known that I am really different and have trouble asserting myself socially. Until now, it has never degraded my self-esteem, though. My talent in math and science always dictated my self-esteem.

It's like, am I really that undesirable that people feel the need to make fun of me about it?

I guess my main questions that I'd like answered are: What are the intentions of these girls, and how do I go about getting rid of them, as they are really messing with how I view myself.

Thank you for your help

Hmmm. That sounds like a pretty tricky and cruel situation.
Well, what most people would tell you to do would be ignore them, because they would get bored of having no response and they would move on to bother someone else. Another thing to try is (nicely) tell them that you would like to sit alone, if they ask why, just make up something like "I'm having a bit of a bad day, and I would like to think it over alone."

I am a high school student like you, and have seen this happen many times. I don't see that being viewed as a "nerd" is necessarily a bad thing though. I bet you have more brains than all those girls put together and multiplied several times You are a much better person than those girls can ever aspire to be.
You should be proud of who you are.

There is always the option that they are being sincere, although you seem to presume there is no way that can be true.
I would say ignore them, because no-one likes talking to a person who doesn't respond. Its like talking to a brick wall, no-one does that right?

Their intentions are pretty much exactly what you think they are: To make fun of you. They're particularly amused that by being nice to you, you (at least by their reckoning) believe you have a chance with them, which (again, according to them) you absolutely don't, much like the 5 year old boy they babysat who asked her to marry him. Eventually, they'll get bored of you and move on to some new game to amuse themselves. I suppose in the meantime you could 'accidentally' spill your coke all over one of their blouses. A couple of 'accidents' like that will reveal their true colors very quickly.

Yeah, ignoring them is the approach I have been taking. But ignoring them is pretty much as hard as engaging them. It's really hard to ignore them because of this power-struggle type thing. Outright ignoring them is difficult because it would be like asserting power over them: something I just can't do. I usually just respond with one word. It's been going on for a little over a month and I'm getting pretty tired of it.


I thank you for the encouragement and kind words! It truly means a lot.

Tell them "Sorry ladies but I am only attracted to smart women."

@Sacrip: I know they're making fun of me. I guess, even though they are being quite cruel to me in that sense, I don't think I could bring myself to pour coke on them or do anything mean to them. I know that probably doesn't make sense.


I don't think I would be able to tell them that.... I just can't bring myself to say such things.