I'm confessing to him tonight.

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So, I will see the man I really care about tonight and I will tell him how I feel about him. I'm seriously nervous, but I need to tell him. If anyone has any ideas not to screw up I'd gladly listen.

Are you sure he likes you back?

This situation has shojo anime written all over it.

So tell us about this guy. Have you two been friends long? A base of friendship is usually a good foundation for a romantic relationship. Also, you never know, he could be thinking the same thing you are and is just shy, so taking the initiative would be a good thing.

At least, that's how it happened with my current girlfriend of 11 months. We had been friends long, but I was too much of an idiot to realize that she had romantic feelings for me until she outright kissed me after walking me home one night. Talk about unexpected with a capital U! But in the end it worked out.

Best of luck to you.

Good luck, hope it works out.

First off let me say congratulations, takes a lot of nerve to let the person you think the world of, how you feel about them, and to be putting yourself out there like that.

My only advice I have, is be honest, but realize that all the added details about why, and how, and trying to vocalize all of that, can wait as the relationship develops. I have the tendency to jump in full strength and that can scare people, so I've learned this the hard way on occasion.

Sooo hard to remind myself "keep it simple stupid (K.I.S.S.)" especially in the affairs of the heart, but when I do things usually go best, no matter what happens.

Simple means, letting them know how you feel with your actions, and letting them know "hey, you know I really care about you, and would love to be together as a couple, or see where the road that leads that way together goes". Not what I'd normally do as far as telling them way to many details that overwhelm them and leaves them feeling uncomfortable or that I have an unhealthy fixation with them.

But anyways, best of luck to you, and well wishes, hope tonight goes wonderfully for you.

I wish you the best of luck, i hope all go's well

I want an update! How did it go?

I couldn't do it Sunday! There was too many people all around so I chickened out, but this morning I sent him a private message and hopefully he got it.

Keep us updated!! ! I've been through this with both a good and a bad outcome and I'm sure I'm not the only one, so we'll be here for you no matter what happens.

Dear, you are only 17. Just past the stage of passing notes in school.

Do you have an actual relationship with this guy or do you just fancy him?

If you don't really know him then don't go telling him you like him.
Just smile, flirt and touch his arm. He will get the hint.

Flirting is hard.

He's a friend first, but he declined.

*cringes* Ouch. Sorry to hear that.

If I'm reading this correctly, I guess he gave you the "I like you but as a friend only" routine?

Well, that's still better than outright rejection, I guess.

I had this friend in high school that I had a crush on for the longest time, but she was way out of my league, dating a wrestler no less. So I kind of gave up on her romantically. Still, she was an awesome friend, she was my sempai in the drama club and so we were in a few plays together. Even though she didn't view me as a romantic interest she still said I was a funny guy and a good friend. When I finally worked up the courage to ask her out, she told me so. Well, my thought was that even though I liked her as more than a friend, I was still happy just to be her friend if it meant that I could still be around her. So we became good friends. She's studying abroad in France now, and I moved to Wyoming from our hometown in Tennessee, but we still keep in touch over the internet.


My advice for you is to just roll with it. If he only likes you as a friend, be his friend. If by some chance he comes to see you as a romantic interest, then you'll still have that foundation for your relationship. And like I said it's better than outright rejection by spades. Just keep it strictly at friend level for now, don't make any further advances romantically or he may start pushing you away. Just be the best friend you can be, either eventually he'll fall for you or the two of you will find other romantic interests and move on.

I'll be the best friend I can be to him. Thanks everyone for your support.

The thing that kills me everytime this happens to me is the realization of the gulf between how much we care for the other person, versus how little they regard us. It feels like the utter diminution of the self.

Just because he didn't want a relationship, doesn't mean he doesn't care for her.