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locutusofborg
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20 Dec 2010, 10:16 pm

Hey everybody, the subject above pretty much says it all.

I consider myself very attractive and intelligent, and girls are attracted to me, but for some reason, I lack the extroversion to interact with them and form an emotional connection. So how do I form an emotional connection which in turn leads to getting laid?
Please give suggestions and with steps provided for accomplishing this social goal.



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20 Dec 2010, 10:22 pm

locutusofborg wrote:
Hey everybody, the subject above pretty much says it all.

I consider myself very attractive and intelligent, and girls are attracted to me, but for some reason, I lack the extroversion to interact with them and form an emotional connection. So how do I form an emotional connection which in turn leads to getting laid?
Please give suggestions and with steps provided for accomplishing this social goal.


Do you want an emotional connection, or do you just want to get laid? If you just want to get laid, I wouldn't deceive the girl into thinking you want or have an emotional connection with her. Then you will have problems.

If you just want to get laid, I imagine you would start going to a bunch of night clubs and chatting women up, make the right moves at the right times, and if you do this enough you will eventually find a woman who will...sober and in her right mind, want to have sex with you.

If you want an actual relationship that involves sex, that's a different story.



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20 Dec 2010, 10:22 pm

locutusofborg wrote:
Hey everybody, the subject above pretty much says it all.

I consider myself very attractive and intelligent, and girls are attracted to me, but for some reason, I lack the extroversion to interact with them and form an emotional connection. So how do I form an emotional connection which in turn leads to getting laid?
Please give suggestions and with steps provided for accomplishing this social goal.


Um...if your only goal is to get laid, women will see through that and you'll get labeled with nasty terms. And as a recent ex-virgin I can tell you, sex isn't what everyone makes it out to be. Lots of sweating, thrusting and grunting and an endorphin rush. You can achieve similar results from going to the gym. :lol:

Good luck, for what it's worth. :)



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20 Dec 2010, 10:26 pm

Everyone told me alcohol was great, and that tasted bad. Everyone told me weed was great, and that wasn't too good either. Everyone told me parties were great, and they aren't. They all sounded boring, and it turns out they are. Sex always sounded the same way. And everyone told me sex is great. Hmmmmm...



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20 Dec 2010, 10:27 pm

So, are you asking how to feel the right emotions necessary, or are you asking how to properly mimic these emotions to present yourself as emotionally accessible to women? Also, how old are you? The advice I'd give an 18 year old is much different than what I'd give to a 30 year old.


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20 Dec 2010, 10:52 pm

The short answer: yes - if you're willing to see a prostitute or escort like some here advocate.
The long answer: if you want a fruitful relationship with sex, you've got a ways to go. Start with the small things - work on socializing and finding a happy balance between NT and aspie interests, your appearance, going to social situtations that you feel comfortable in, start an okcupid profile, etc...



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20 Dec 2010, 11:04 pm

Erisad wrote:
Um...if your only goal is to get laid, women will see through that and you'll get labeled with nasty terms. And as a recent ex-virgin I can tell you, sex isn't what everyone makes it out to be. Lots of sweating, thrusting and grunting and an endorphin rush. You can achieve similar results from going to the gym. :lol:


You've just made me not want to go to another gym ever for the rest of my life... not a good thing given the fact that i need to lol



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20 Dec 2010, 11:12 pm

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Erisad wrote:
Um...if your only goal is to get laid, women will see through that and you'll get labeled with nasty terms. And as a recent ex-virgin I can tell you, sex isn't what everyone makes it out to be. Lots of sweating, thrusting and grunting and an endorphin rush. You can achieve similar results from going to the gym. :lol:


You've just made me not want to go to another gym ever for the rest of my life... not a good thing given the fact that i need to lol


Huh, I thought it would make people want to go to the gym. It certainly did for me. XD



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20 Dec 2010, 11:33 pm

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Huh, I thought it would make people want to go to the gym. It certainly did for me. XD


You're forgetting, I'm not that big on wanting sex. Not averse to the idea, but it's not my top priority. I'd much rather have a sexless relationship than meaningless sex...



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20 Dec 2010, 11:39 pm

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Erisad wrote:
Huh, I thought it would make people want to go to the gym. It certainly did for me. XD


You're forgetting, I'm not that big on wanting sex. Not averse to the idea, but it's not my top priority. I'd much rather have a sexless relationship than meaningless sex...


*shrug* I'm like that too but I guess I'm just trying to appeal to a variety of posters. :D



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20 Dec 2010, 11:42 pm

There are many contexts with utilize "Laid"

such as Laid off (from work), to do this be a useless worker who intentionally doesn't live up to your true potential, and doesn't output resources that surpasses your maintenance. Instead of mining for clients, and or possible leads of revenue for the company, watch porn and play video games.

Laying an Egg: Inject yourself with Poultry genes. Get pregnant. Inject yourself with Serpent Genes, get pregnant..If human: Ovulate every month.

Laying bricks (Job). Register for Masonry at a technical school, apply to a construction company, work at trade of Masonry, join Freemasons (or their Female co-organization Eastern Star).

Lay minister: Study religious scriptures and become active in a religious community, but DON'T engage in Clerical studies and become a Clergy member.

Laid (Context: full from a bag of Frito Lay's snacks). Go to your closest grocery store, or convinence store: Examples: 7-11, Circle K, Esso, Winks, Am Pm, Quicky Mart, Walmart, Albertsons, Real Canadian Superstore, Safeway (too expensive, but meh it's your money), Family Mart, Wistons (Asia). etc etc etc. Go home, and serve snacks (in a bowl, or out of the bag).

Laying (betting): Plan a vacation to destinations where gambling is legalized, Atlantic City, Macau, Las Vegas, Monaco, etc etc etc. Save up for a vacation. exchange currency for The Casino's currency, in the form of Chips. Attend a casino game during betting phase, place chip on gaming board.

Laying (sleeping, dead, setting down), move your body into a position parallel to a surface, (ie water (using a floation device ie floating chair, flutter board), rest your limbs and torso flush to the surface.

If Dead.... rest the corpse in a dignified and peaceful position, or if victim of trauma (ie a fight or homocide), fall backwards after trauma inflicted.. get outlined by chalk....

If a video game or ficticious death, Fly backwards screaming, wait for game over credits to finish and option screen to present opportunities to restart the game or continue.....



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20 Dec 2010, 11:50 pm

sillycat wrote:
There are many contexts with utilize "Laid"

such as Laid off (from work), to do this be a useless worker who intentionally doesn't live up to your true potential, and doesn't output resources that surpasses your maintenance. Instead of mining for clients, and or possible leads of revenue for the company, watch porn and play video games.

Laying an Egg: Inject yourself with Poultry genes. Get pregnant. Inject yourself with Serpent Genes, get pregnant..If human: Ovulate every month.

Laying bricks (Job). Register for Masonry at a technical school, apply to a construction company, work at trade of Masonry, join Freemasons (or their Female co-organization Eastern Star).

Lay minister: Study religious scriptures and become active in a religious community, but DON'T engage in Clerical studies and become a Clergy member.

Laid (Context: full from a bag of Frito Lay's snacks). Go to your closest grocery store, or convinence store: Examples: 7-11, Circle K, Esso, Winks, Am Pm, Quicky Mart, Walmart, Albertsons, Real Canadian Superstore, Safeway (too expensive, but meh it's your money), Family Mart, Wistons (Asia). etc etc etc. Go home, and serve snacks (in a bowl, or out of the bag).

Laying (betting): Plan a vacation to destinations where gambling is legalized, Atlantic City, Macau, Las Vegas, Monaco, etc etc etc. Save up for a vacation. exchange currency for The Casino's currency, in the form of Chips. Attend a casino game during betting phase, place chip on gaming board.

Laying (sleeping, dead, setting down), move your body into a position parallel to a surface, (ie water (using a floation device ie floating chair, flutter board), rest your limbs and torso flush to the surface.

If Dead.... rest the corpse in a dignified and peaceful position, or if victim of trauma (ie a fight or homocide), fall backwards after trauma inflicted.. get outlined by chalk....

If a video game or ficticious death, Fly backwards screaming, wait for game over credits to finish and option screen to present opportunities to restart the game or continue.....


Assuming that you really are that inept, I mean engaging in recreational sexual intercourse with a human female without the intention of procreation.



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21 Dec 2010, 12:47 am

Probably best to get to know someone before you sleep with them. I.e. so ask a girl out for coffee and go from there.



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21 Dec 2010, 5:31 am

Here is the problem:
Almost every guy is horny enough to jump almost any woman.

Women know this and they know that they can take their choice. The ball is in their court.

Guys have to work a lot harder than girls.



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21 Dec 2010, 7:51 am

Dude you're 17, what the hell is your rush?



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21 Dec 2010, 8:11 am

go to nevada where prostitutes are legal