Urgent help with Okcupid

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So i received an email saying one out of a selection of pictured girls had rated me 4 or 5 stars. So i clicked on the profile of the girl i was attracted to the most, ended up rating her 4 stars and i have now received an automated message telling me that it was indeed her who had rated me highly. So what's my next move? I was tempted to just message her straight away but i thought i'd wait and ask first in case doing that would make me look desperate? Anyway, advise me! What should i write and when?

I'd write that it doesn't surprise or phase you one bit to be voted 4 or 5 stars then invite said lady to assess your love making skills of which she will also probably want to give a 4 or 5 star rating.



Or if that's a bit tooo cocky for you. I dunno. I've said thanks before. That's probably not the sexiest thing to do. I'd read her jacket cover and see if there's anything you can start a conversation with.

Or just invite her out? She's attracted to you or her perception thus far of you.

I'm not much for the online dating thing, but from what I can tell, she's attracted to you. You're attracted to her. Just send her a message telling her that you'd like to get to know her better, and if she's interested, send you a message back.

Dont want to seem desperate? Then dont use okcupid. Otherwise proceed with caution.

hahaha. Man that is a bit too cocky for me. Good though, i like it! It was more of the timeframe i was looking at. Messaging her straight away wouldn't frighten her off in your view? That will mean i have rated her 4 stars and messaged her all in one morning.

"Hey. Fancy getting to know each other? Message me back if you like."


Maybe this?

Thing is, if you leave it, she might wonder what your problem is.

I can never tell. I don't like playing games, fiddling with timing. I like to do things when they feel right.

Going straight from rating her to asking to meet might be a bit forward. You don't know anything about this girl other than that she looks good. It'll come off more like a booty call than anything else. And I'm assuming you want more than that.

For now, just try to get to know her. Ask her what she's interested in. See if you have any common interests and talk about that. If you like her, ask her out to coffee.

...Y'know, I'm surprisingly good at giving advice. I just wish I could remove myself from every situation and then take my own advice. Such is my curse, I suppose.

Edit: And I'd say message her sooner, rather than later. The thing about the dating game is that the rules change for every single person. You might come off as too forward if you message her right away, but waiting might make you seem disinterested. I'd say it's better to come off as forward. Strike while the iron is hot, as they say.

Yeah my inclination is just to message her now, f**k it. She's pretty attractive and German though, so i really don't want to mess this up.

How are you up at this hour? I hope your sleep patterns aren't as crazily disordered as mine?

My sleep patterns are broken as heck right now Thank you for your concern.

I might look at OKcupid.

"Thanks for the rating. I really like your profile. You have good taste in music and i love music"

I just typed that into the box and i dont like it. I'm going to have to settle on something soon as i am now get stressed and worked up.

Is the above that bad?

"Thanks for the rating. I really like your profile. You have good taste in music and i love music. I especially love The Cure and The XX. : ) "

Sent this in the end. If it sucks it's too late!

I've never had a relationship so this is why i am getting so stressed out and deliberating over sending the perfect message.

Would it be too obvious and pointless to tell you to relax, dude?

I just hate it when i send a message on dating sites and they don't respond. It seems like a real rejection of me as a person and as i am already feeling that way due to having AS it kind of smarts a bit.

But i'll take a chill pill, yes. I am now chillaxin to the maxin.

Your message sounds great. Friendly but not overly forward.

Yesss... lol