Talking in a Relationship

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I just got out of a long-term relationship, and I was just thinking about my past relationship. I am not a naturally talkative person, and my NT girlfriend wasn't either. Sometimes we would hang out and there would be fairly long periods of silence.

For people in relationships, are you always talking to your significant other? Are there always things to talk about even after spending an extended period of time together, or is it natural to fall into silence at times? For people not in relationships, would you always be talking to your ideal s/o?

When im dating I always talk with my girlfriend but I hate talking on the phone it can be hard some times if we dont have anything in common or anything to talk about try just asking them questions thats what I do

I think due to my unwanted social isolation when I find someonee to talk to, I can talk pretty incessantly because I have no one else in my life. The issue is I'm good at holding conversations once they have some steam but I have the aspie problem of inability to initiate conversation and the give/take of conversations. Take that and pair it with my ex's social anxiety (and poor social skills) and this often became an issue for us. I don't need to talk all the time, but I could never understand him asking me everyday what I did (when every day is the same for me), how I was (I suck at articulating my feelings so I always say fine until further in the conversation), or what's up (I don't even know how to answer this beyond saying "nothing"). At first these problems were hidden because in the beginning of a relationship everything is exciting and woo! but after 2 years both our social difficulties became prominent problems.

I was thinking about this just the other day. My family and I were having a meal together and I burst out laughing. We are all aspies and it suddenly dawned on me how aspie-ish our meal was. We were all sat in silence, in our own little bubbles, enjoying our food.

Depends on the subject, my girlfriend plays videogames but she's not as obsessed as I am. If we ever get to that topic, I can talk her ears off. Also I tend to rant on anything religious, philosophical or psychological.

When we don't do those subjects i'm generally very quiet.. but I can rant on other things, like celebrity gossip and how stupid they behave.