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25 Mar 2011, 7:41 pm

Anyone feel like there not into girls or guys.
Like there deal is they have no deal.
Have you chosen not to play in the relationship game either way — heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, any sexuality?



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26 Mar 2011, 8:28 am

TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
Anyone feel like there not into girls or guys.
Like there deal is they have no deal.
Have you chosen not to play in the relationship game either way — heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, any sexuality?


Um. I'm asexual, but I'm still into guys-

I'm heteroromantic.

I'm still very much interested in a relationship (undoubtedly too much so).
It's not a "game" at all to me.


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26 Mar 2011, 8:45 am

I am almost asexual outside of a relationship.

On my own, I can go for a long time without feeling much desire for sex. Once in a relationship, this is different.

Once in a relationship, while I may feel extremely aroused and attracted by my partner, I am still pretty much asexual to all other potential mates.

This is definitely a good thing. I am literally not designed for one-night stands, meaningless sex, and infidelity.

I tend to think of it as a sign that I have evolved beyond the raw animalistic need to rut and reproduce indiscriminately. I am genetically adapted to monogamy. Modern humans do not need or benefit from the f*ck-or-die evolved sexual behaviours which were necessary for our ancestors. Domo arigato, Mr. Roboto, indeed.


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26 Mar 2011, 8:48 am

ZeroGravitas wrote:
I am almost asexual outside of a relationship.

On my own, I can go for a long time without feeling much desire for sex. Once in a relationship, this is different.

Once in a relationship, while I may feel extremely aroused and attracted by my partner, I am still pretty much asexual to all other potential mates.

This is definitely a good thing. I am literally not designed for one-night stands, meaningless sex, and infidelity.

I tend to think of it as a sign that I have evolved beyond the raw animalistic need to rut and reproduce indiscriminately. I am genetically adapted to monogamy. Modern humans do not need or benefit from the f*ck-or-die evolved sexual behaviours which were necessary for our ancestors. Domo arigato, Mr. Roboto, indeed.



"A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often (but not always) in a romantic relationship. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality. In general, demisexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender; however, when a demisexual is emotionally connected to (usually in love with but sometimes feel strongly as friends) someone else, the demisexual experiences sexual attraction and desire to the same degree or less strongly as a sexual person, but only towards the specific partner or partners."

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.ph ... Demisexual


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26 Mar 2011, 9:35 am

^^^ I will be content to be called a demigod.


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26 Mar 2011, 7:10 pm

Bethie wrote:
TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
Anyone feel like there not into girls or guys.
Like there deal is they have no deal.
Have you chosen not to play in the relationship game either way — heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, any sexuality?


Um. I'm asexual, but I'm still into guys-

I'm heteroromantic.

I'm still very much interested in a relationship (undoubtedly too much so).
It's not a "game" at all to me.


But you do feel sexual attraction to guys, don't you?

Yes or no?



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26 Mar 2011, 7:13 pm

Risqué.



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26 Mar 2011, 10:13 pm

MCalavera wrote:
Bethie wrote:
TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
Anyone feel like there not into girls or guys.
Like there deal is they have no deal.
Have you chosen not to play in the relationship game either way — heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, any sexuality?


Um. I'm asexual, but I'm still into guys-

I'm heteroromantic.

I'm still very much interested in a relationship (undoubtedly too much so).
It's not a "game" at all to me.


But you do feel sexual attraction to guys, don't you?

Yes or no?


No.
That would make me heterosexual.


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28 Mar 2011, 12:55 pm

Bethie wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Bethie wrote:
TB_TB_TB_TB_TB_TB wrote:
Anyone feel like there not into girls or guys.
Like there deal is they have no deal.
Have you chosen not to play in the relationship game either way — heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, any sexuality?


Um. I'm asexual, but I'm still into guys-

I'm heteroromantic.

I'm still very much interested in a relationship (undoubtedly too much so).
It's not a "game" at all to me.


But you do feel sexual attraction to guys, don't you?

Yes or no?


No.
That would make me heterosexual.


I still cant figure out why some many aspies are not sexual at all its so confusing to me :?



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28 Mar 2011, 7:00 pm

I think for me it's that I don't get the concept of intimacy. I like having a good conversation, I can appreciate a person's appearance. However, I need my alone time and independence. I place no emotional significance on physical acts, and I have little interest in sharing a bodily function with another person. It seems to line up well with the overall nature of AS, I'm surprised that there are so many Aspies that aren't asexual. I guess I'm lucky, I don't have what it takes to get a lot of dating action, but it dosen't bother me that much that I'm single.



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30 Mar 2011, 9:10 am

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I still cant figure out why some many aspies are not sexual at all its so confusing to me :?


Because our brains are wired completely differently.


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30 Mar 2011, 9:11 am

MichaelDWhite wrote:
I think for me it's that I don't get the concept of intimacy. I like having a good conversation, I can appreciate a person's appearance. However, I need my alone time and independence. I place no emotional significance on physical acts, and I have little interest in sharing a bodily function with another person. It seems to line up well with the overall nature of AS, I'm surprised that there are so many Aspies that aren't asexual. I guess I'm lucky, I don't have what it takes to get a lot of dating action, but it dosen't bother me that much that I'm single.


I'm the total opposite. I hate being alone- there's nothing I want more than to be with someone who I connect with and spend every moment together, and I have no concept of judging someone's appearance.

I agree about sharing bodily functions, though.


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30 Mar 2011, 9:41 am

Bethie wrote:
ZeroGravitas wrote:
I am almost asexual outside of a relationship.

On my own, I can go for a long time without feeling much desire for sex. Once in a relationship, this is different.

Once in a relationship, while I may feel extremely aroused and attracted by my partner, I am still pretty much asexual to all other potential mates.

This is definitely a good thing. I am literally not designed for one-night stands, meaningless sex, and infidelity.

I tend to think of it as a sign that I have evolved beyond the raw animalistic need to rut and reproduce indiscriminately. I am genetically adapted to monogamy. Modern humans do not need or benefit from the f*ck-or-die evolved sexual behaviours which were necessary for our ancestors. Domo arigato, Mr. Roboto, indeed.



"A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often (but not always) in a romantic relationship. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality. In general, demisexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender; however, when a demisexual is emotionally connected to (usually in love with but sometimes feel strongly as friends) someone else, the demisexual experiences sexual attraction and desire to the same degree or less strongly as a sexual person, but only towards the specific partner or partners."

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.ph ... Demisexual

Huh. I think this is me.



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30 Mar 2011, 10:15 am

Jonsi wrote:
Huh. I think this is me.


Yeah, I've been struggling the last few years to figure out whether I'm ace or demi....closer to ace, but there's still some question.


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30 Mar 2011, 11:55 am

Bethie wrote:
Joker wrote:

I still cant figure out why some many aspies are not sexual at all its so confusing to me :?


Because our brains are wired completely differently.


I know this im a aspie to I was first diagnosed with aspergers at age seven im bisexual not asexual I like girls and guys :P



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30 Mar 2011, 12:12 pm

Joker wrote:
Bethie wrote:
Joker wrote:

I still cant figure out why some many aspies are not sexual at all its so confusing to me :?


Because our brains are wired completely differently.


I know this im a aspie to I was first diagnosed with aspergers at age seven im bisexual not asexual I like girls and guys :P


Cool story, bro!

I used to think I was bisexual-
that's a real problem with current sexology:
asexuals often get classified as bi because their sexual interest in males versus females (that being zero)
is the same.


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