bright eyes?

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Hello. I just wanted to hear comments about a situation when a person insists that they don't want a relationship but plays a lot of love songs, and some particular love songs over and over when we are together. It is not moving me emotionally but it is confusing me and I've pulled away out of fear. I guess it could be considered a relationship anyway, we're just not "exclusive". What's with these mixed messages?

I think you should consider that the person simply likes the sound of these songs and isn't trying to send you any messeges.

Why not just ask them why they like these songs?

I think it could be interpreted either way. What I do is listen closely to the lyrics and unless I can hear something very specific that relates to the both of us then I shrug it off as just something she wanted to share that most of her friends won't give a listen to. Most of the girls I know will share love songs and such with me because the other men they know show little interest, and whether I am actually interested or not I think I give off a very neutral stance and am at least willing to listen, which is better than nothing, or a negative reaction. And is the title of the thread referring to the band Bright Eyes? Because besides a couple songs I would consider them FAR from romantic.

he may be communicating to you non-verbally in the only way he knows how. I think if thats the case, it is both lame and unfair to you. If he is not easily put off emotionally, and you guys are pretty close, ask him about it, or even tease him over it. If he withdraws emotionally, gives you the cold shoulder, or throws some tantrum, you will both know your answer and the que for you to "exit"

If he just has lame taste in music... thats manageable. Good luck with that.

Perhaps the music has a intimate non-verbal/non-relationship meaning.