Some more problems I'm having

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This is a follow-up to these two threads:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp3580355.html
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt159753.html

Okay, so here's the problem: I don't get to see her again until May 7, nine days after the last time I saw her. This unfortunately coincides with prom season, which means someone else is likely to ask her out to the prom during this extreme delay. Once again I am faced with a freak coincidence that will probably ruin everything. I'm fu¢king sick of this. My luck is so bad it's just eerie.

Another problem I have is that even if someone hasn't asked her out, she might be bagging for one of the girls who thinks I'm a creep. This will result in 1: them smearing me and telling her to avoid me and 2: everyone spreading rumors about me and thinking I'm a creepy loser

Is there any way I can fix these issues? It seems like no matter what I do, life keeps throwing punches at me and knocking it all down. The harder I try, the harder my luck tries to stop me.

EDIT: And no, I don't want to hear "She's in high school so she's too young for you, you filthy pedophile." The age of consent in my state is 16, so STFU.

I think your over thinking the situation and letting the "I want to be first in line" mentality get you trampling poor grandma and all her grand kids in your wake.

Calm down, take a breathe. Your already too involved... even if you get together with her you might have a nervous meltdown/yell at her and call her a whore just because your nerves are so high.

So I want you to start with deep breathes, and forget about the girl. Just totally give up... move on, remember nothing about her. Then after that calmly call your friend that got her number, and call her politely and explain where you got her number, that you knew you wouldn't see her till after prom was over and where just curious if she'd let you take her. Because you think shes pretty cool....

But the first step is, oneness with the cinnabon. Give yourself a rest before you scare her away.

As for the women scheming against you.. well, if its deserved then I can't help you. But girls won't go out of their way to talk about a guy unless you left a lasting impression. And even if they did most girls don't usually listen. When I got together with my last girl I found out I actually knew her friend *cough*, by bumping into her at a event we went to. Her friend called the girl I was with and told her EVERYTHING negative possible. She actually took it quite harshly, and got the wrong impression. After a bit of a talk the girl I was with she just basically thought of it as her trying to be a friend but being slightly vindictive..

I'm not mad at her. I'm mad at my life for giving me such a hard time. It's prom season, and she's scheduled as late as humanly possible, two unlikely situations combined. What are the chances of that happening? It seems like I'm always in precisely the wrong place at precisely the wrong time.

Not all together unheard of. When girls I've dated have something important going on they tend to make their schedules as open as possible.

You're missing the entire point. What I'm trying to say is that my employer scheduled her as late as possible, and that just happens to be in the general vicinity of prom, which is usually in the middle of May. She is likely to be asked out sometime in the next few days. I feel like I'm going to lose my chance due to factors completely beyond my control.

So? Go watch a dirty movie.

That's not exactly helpful.

Come on, people, I want actual advice, not just people telling me to forget about it and jack off. In case you haven't noticed, this isn't an "I'm so lonely and horny and women don't like me." thread like you seem to think it is. This is an "I found a girl who likes me but bad situations are getting in the way." thread.

Last edited by LordoftheMonkeys on 02 May 2011, 8:51 am, edited 1 time in total.

Its not your only chance tho, your missing my point. I'm saying to relax and think things through... Technically even if you asked her out weeks ago you'd still have the same issue because she might want to take someone from school to prom. Dating doesn't equal a exclusive relationship immediately...


Edit : I'm trying to say there is NO way to fix it at the moment unless you want to come off as stalker/creepy. You should relax and ride it through... Or give us a small hint of what kind of response your looking for...

I know. That's why I'm refraining from going to her Facebook page or getting her phone number from a friend, like I could do if I was really desperate. I have enough experience screwing up with women to know what behavior comes off as creepy and stalkerish. If I talk to her it's going to be face-to-face; it's just frustrating how long I have to wait.

I'm doing my best not to let this develop into an obsession, but the rest of my life is suffering as a result.

I've actually done these things before and had them gone down in a calm/good manner. If you explain your position, such as myself.. I don't really like talking to/hitting on girls at their work because I've gotten a girl in trouble before by accident....

This approach does only work if you advantage of knowing they want you very badly.