"Women Attracted to Men Whose Feelings Are Unclear"

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http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/20 ... 142623.htm

I don't know if this is true. What do you guys reckon?

Last edited by Moog on 25 Apr 2011, 9:35 am, edited 3 times in total.

I'm going to go with true sadly enough. It depends on the time into a relationship though and the intensity, and if Love is involved.

People like the mistery and games, makes it exiting to some extent. What else is news?

it would make it easier on me if I knew a little better..yeah it makes me dwell on my partner...but I am not attracted to the idea of perptually throwing my energy and emotions down a well..

then again..maybe that is what everyone does...

Oh God, this makes me laugh. Couldn't be more true. But oddly enough, the men I fall for and chase, those relationships end badly. The ones who pursue me, well I tend to get longterm relationships from them.

But yes, the more they seem aloof, the more we chase.

That's probably because, more often than not, they can relate to having unclear feelings, being in more than one mind about the guy, and so on.

Women....

But seriously though, I think this is very true. Girls get more interested in me when they know little about me...

Me...the dark....the exotic from the east.... ooooo how mysterious

but once they know me better and realize that I am really not that different , their level of interest would go back to normal..

That also explains why women find foreigners interesting and attractive, there's a strong element of unknown about them.

But what about Women Who Love Men Who Love Women Whose Feelings Are Unclear?

Is science all done now? Has it given up? Did Intelligent Design make all the scientists say "Screw this!" and start researching old Sally Jessy Raphael show titles?

What a loop....

Its Christmas morning, and your only 10 years old. Under the tree is about 5-10 boxes with your name on it. You anxiously scan them over. Some thin rectangle boxes - intuition tells you they are from grandma and not Santa, "probably clothes or sweaters I'll never wear". You scan some more - a small square box... tempting, and you yell, "GAMES?!". And you finally look to the back - where you see a over sized boxed which you have no fathom of what could be inside...

So you dash and you dart, you grab the present and you tear it open...

Life is much the same way.

That explains why I get bored with men after five minutes of playing and toss them in the corner, eventually donating them away so someone plays with them.

Hee-larious.

I guess I'll be the dissenter here, or at least the skeptic. The article didn't provide all the info about this "dating" experiment I'd like to understand before drawing a conclusion about the results: for example, what did the women think would be done with their ratings of the men's profiles? Did they think this information would be provided to the men described in the profiles? If they thought their ratings were going to be shared with the men profiled, I have to wonder if that in and of itself influenced their ratings? After all, if you're viewing a profile of a guy who's a potentially good match, and you think he may feel the same way about you, wouldn't you try to communicate your attraction unequivocally? Wouldn't a high rating in that circumstance be similar to a little extended eye contact/smile across a bar, room, table? Just an indication that a little conversation would be welcome?

If the subjects were told the experiment could result in an actual date, then how do we really know that the subjects' goal wasn't more about just getting the guy contact her, than about real attraction? What's the best way to insure that you'll be contacted? Be enthusiastically positive. Doesn't mean that you have to marry the guy, or even date him....you just want a chance to see what he's like, and let him see what you're like. Based on the article, I wouldn't draw the same conclusions about the data the researchers have.

This explains why women that I hate and find annoying can't leave me alone.

Maybe this is partly why some of us Apie guys like me always stay in the friend-zone; I tell women I like em so they know my feelings..

uncertainty about a man's feelings is not at all attractive to me. if i don't know what he thinks i find it confusing and frustrating and i move on to someone who reflects my level of attraction. i voraciously accumulate understanding about the person i am pursuing, so i can't imagine being attracted to someone who is mysterious about his feelings. but i can only speak for myself.

(i think pickup artists use this concept to their advantage by doing an insult/compliment technique that keeps women guessing about their feelings. how the heck is that supposed to be appealing? i have a female coworker who does that to me and i get quite annoyed. it's not sexy in the least. i want to impress her much less, not more, after she does that.)