This is what I hate most about my AS.

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I wish I had a real relationship with a girl, but it's like I can't bond. I don't know how to. I never really developed socially. When I see a couple together I get so jealous and sad. It's kinda pathetic.

its hard for AS men to maintain relationships....i am 34 m and have AS
i never had any trouble forming relationships, i could never keep them.
we do feel love we just dont know how to show it properly.
it may help if you met other women with AS?
or ADHD or similar spectrum people as they would be willing to accept your individulaity as being on the spectrum?

Unfortunately for AS types they have some of the following characteristics:

-They don't talk a lot, any communication they use is for UTILITY (I need sex, we need this, that, the other thing), unless their partner shares special interest, or some kind of commonality.
-The want to spend a lot of their time with their special interest outside of having sex with their partners
-They basically neglect their partner in some way without realizing it
-They MAY not have matured enough intellectually to "fake" the emotional/social needs of the other partner.

AS guys can attract partners but cannot keep them, this is also my problem.

Other AS guys are psychologically messed up beyond belief because of peer rejection and their lack of being able to successfully connect with other people, socializing is CRITICAL skill that one needs to survive in the world, it's how one builds all kinds of relationships between people, from friends, to business, befriending strangers, etc.

Many AS guys have timid temperaments and are very 'naive', they are consumed by depression, fear, anxiety and possibly a host of other problems.

I can relate to this fairly well.

I have had one relationship in my life, which I thought was going very well. After being together 5 years, and getting married (dont do that!) she decided that I wasnt right...or something. I really dont understand and doubt I ever will.

I never saw problems, she always had to point them out to me. So ya...who knows!

I will most likely remain single until some lifelike robots come about. When I can program my very own robogirl to my liking. hehe

i feel the same way 2 buddy

Let's all commit suicide!
[in case you can't tell, I am being sarcastic...]

http://www.befriending.co.uk/pdfstore/B ... ergers.pdf

There Space, 85% attempt suicide and/or self harm. Regardless of the facts, it was an inappropriate and inconsiderate comment. There was no point to it.

Dude 1 in every 4 aspie men committ suicide either in their teens or young adulescense. Though I don't wanna die anymore (I was suicidal once though, but I've learned to cope with my demons)... I don't think we should take their right away to end their lives.... AS is a lifelong condition with little hope to overcoming (more due to society's prejudice than our actual "disorder")... I mean some people can't learn to cope and live in total turmoil their whole lives, and no life is better than a slow, agonizing, painful, traumatic life.

I didn't find your comment insensitive at all, and I've been there and back.

One thing about having communities like these is that it's easy to find support, but a lot of the time, it can make depression worse when other people post the same kind of depressing things we're already saying to ourselves. In a way, at times, it seems talk of depression/suicide is part of the 'culture' of the place.

You've said a few very important things in a funny way (but then again some people don't like black-ish humor). Bravo.