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The_Face_of_Boo
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06 May 2011, 2:33 pm

Ok, I am cheating my WP fasting....whatever, but I am home now anyways.

Every once in a week , I am being introduced to some part of the new company that I am gonna work for after 2 months (CRM manager). Today, it was the customer care department: 1 man (the head of dept) and 4 girls.

Everything was going smooth with the guy, explaining me their work process and everything but he had to leave early, so he delegated his assistant to resume the introducing.

The assistant (girl 1) was fine, mature and pro and told me everything, she told me to watch how they deal with the calls and issues live. She looks like the oldest one.

There weren't many time (friday, late time at 5:30 pm) so the three other girls starting chatting me and asking me silly questions.

Girl 2 : Hi, I am xxxx, what's your name?
Me: xxxxx
Girl 2: my name is xxxx (full name)
Girl 3 (a veiled one): *sighing* , i like that name, I was with a guy with such name but helas we're not longer together.
Me: *nods*
Girl 4 (the most aggressive): how old are you?
Me: 29
Girl 4: Are you taken?
Me: No
Girl 4: Why???
Me: Didn't meet the right one (so cliché I know).
Girl 4: I am not taken too! "Are you set"? (= mzabbat 7alak?, a local term usually means "are you ready to marry?" MCleavera would understand that)
Me: (played the dumb) , what??
Girl 4 : I mean, do you have a place of your own?
Me: Not yet,but I hope soon after I start here.
Girl 2: Do you have a car?
Me: No.
Girl 2: How do you go from one place to another?
Me: Taxis or I use my car's dad sometimes.
Girl 2: good ,I have no problem! (with a big smile)

***here I started geting really confuzzled)**

Girl 4 : What's your shoe's size? (asked out of the blue)
Girl 3(the veiled) looking at her slightly shocked :o

Me: Well...I think it's between 35 and 49, depends on the weather.
all of them: *giggles.*
Girl 2: Where do you live?
Me: xxxxxxxxxxxx
Girl 2: oh I live just 2 streets away!...

and ..bla bla bla bla? ...
..bla bla bla bla? ...
..bla bla bla bla? ...

They kept that for about a half hour, questions , questions , questions, personal questions, one of them even asked me to show her my pics on my iphone, the other gave me her full name (girl2) to add her on FB.

It was a nightmare. I am glad that I am not going to work with them in the same room because I would end up either raped or committing suicide.


Have you ever been in a such situation when a girl(s) started approaching you in a such annoying way?


**going back to WP fasting***



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06 May 2011, 2:37 pm

Gee whizz Boo, you get a bit of female attention and you complain

They're all clearly gagging for it.


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06 May 2011, 2:48 pm

Must be the heat


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06 May 2011, 2:52 pm

Wow, they're pretty forward.



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06 May 2011, 2:54 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Have you ever been in a such situation when a girl(s) started approaching you in a such annoying way?


No, but now I really want to live in Lebanon. :P



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06 May 2011, 3:06 pm

Oh My God! If they tried any harder to pick you up, they'd have thrown you to the ceiling. That is some poweful flirting going on. Truly powerful.

You do realize what asking you your shoe size meant, right? Say you know so I don't have to explain, but....whew!! !



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06 May 2011, 3:31 pm

I feel for you Boo, I would have hated that! I hate small talk and people flirting, I hate it when people force chat on me and wont just leave me be. I spent years being polite but that only encouraged them so now I try to be a bit rude so they dont like me and leave me alone, its tricky as its your work and if your rude they might try to get you sacked. You will need to find a way of working in a different room and avoiding them. Perhaps look up 'keep away' body language to put them off talking.



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06 May 2011, 3:45 pm

The-Raven wrote:
Perhaps look up 'keep away' body language to put them off talking.


The fact that there are people in existence who don't do that by default is revelatory to me.


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06 May 2011, 3:51 pm

Moog wrote:
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Perhaps look up 'keep away' body language to put them off talking.


The fact that there are people in existence who don't do that by default is revelatory to me.

I watched a videojug film about reading body language for if people are attracted (or not attracted) and it really helped me, as Im quite poor at reading body language or puting out the right signals. I used it when a drunk man was pestering me when I was waiting for a taxi late at night I crossed my arms and turned away from him and didnt look at him and he left me alone, it was really good! Perviously I would have looked at him and faced him and listened to him and maybe answered him.



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06 May 2011, 3:54 pm

Laz wrote:
Must be the heat


Hmmm yes. :)



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06 May 2011, 8:08 pm

Just tell them you're autistic and their questions make your head spin. Then either they'll lose interest or they might actually be worth talking with.

If you can't or don't want to do that, you could try speaking slower. That would give you some sense of space, and could cause the girls to speak slower also.


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06 May 2011, 8:09 pm

The-Raven wrote:
Moog wrote:
The-Raven wrote:
Perhaps look up 'keep away' body language to put them off talking.


The fact that there are people in existence who don't do that by default is revelatory to me.

I watched a videojug film about reading body language for if people are attracted (or not attracted) and it really helped me, as Im quite poor at reading body language or puting out the right signals. I used it when a drunk man was pestering me when I was waiting for a taxi late at night I crossed my arms and turned away from him and didnt look at him and he left me alone, it was really good! Perviously I would have looked at him and faced him and listened to him and maybe answered him.


I have to work on the other way... at not giving out a vibe like I want to kill everyone I meet. :twisted:


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07 May 2011, 7:46 am

Janissy wrote:
Oh My God! If they tried any harder to pick you up, they'd have thrown you to the ceiling. That is some poweful flirting going on. Truly powerful.

You do realize what asking you your shoe size meant, right? Say you know so I don't have to explain, but....whew!! !


dick size, I know.


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Gee whizz Boo, you get a bit of female attention and you complain

They're all clearly gagging for it.


Not the kind of female attention I would wish for. I wasn't really happy for getting it.

They knew me only for less than hour, and they were already trying to screen me financially (ie. do you have a place? do you have a car? how many years did you work? where did you study?).... and my dick's size.

They knew earlier for the post I am getting it, so they thought I would be "greasy".

This is sad, but this how often the third-world girls are raised (find a "fatty/greasy" husband).
and this enforces my theory of the 3-columns-of-eligibility

anyways, this will be my only WP post for today (pheew, this fasting is harder than I thought, regards.)



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07 May 2011, 8:26 am

That is a fairly interesting story boo.



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07 May 2011, 8:48 am

I've never had women come on to me like they're Magnus Magnusson but if I did I think I'd be pretty scared.

I would be tempted to use the term 'interrogation' over simple flirting.

How would they like it if a group of men used a similar approach?

And don't give me "women are the gentle sex" BS - four people crowding you like that and asking questions is a bit threatening, no matter what your gender.



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07 May 2011, 8:55 am

Janissy wrote:
You do realize what asking you your shoe size meant, right? Say you know so I don't have to explain, but....whew!! !


That's what I thought, too, as soon as I read it.

:lol: