What does it mean?

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I've noticed that sometimes when I'm walking on the streets and there's some girl passing by, she stares at me at the face and sometimes there's eye contact. What does it mean? Is she starring at me because I look weird? Or is it some kind of flirting? It has happened to me lately, just a couple of days ago a girl smiled at me and I smiled back then she approached me but I just looked away because I didn't know what to do. What's the approach to take here?

Try saying "hi" or "hey" next time. See what happens.

I wish it was that easy. But I'll do it! Thanks.

Generally, smiling as you pass by can be considered flirting. This is why, in "Love and the Cabbie," the fact that the guy smiled at a plain-looking woman is so strange.

For me (if I was interested in her), the approach would be to wait until a week after that event happened (where a girl approached you and you looked away), and walk down that same street at that same time, hoping that maybe it was a routine of hers (or maybe I'd see her nearby). I'd apologize for looking away (I guess it put her off?) and then take it from there.

But I'm also rather insane (apparently, though, some girls like that).

Edit: By the way, I wouldn't recommend you do that.

Try to see if her pupils dilate; that is a sign of attraction.

It's also a sign of fear, which is an emotion that a person with difficulties understanding social norms can rather easily cause.

Aside from that, dilation of pupils seems to me to be a bad indicator. Unless you're closely examining them, I would think it would be difficult to ascertain whether or not they are actually dilating.

And if you do go up to someone and start closely examining their pupils, they're going to dilate anyway... and not out of attraction.

Let me ask you this: What is the downside of approaching them? The worst is that they reject you, which you're already assuming they will so there isn't really much risk involved. Even if they aren't interested in you that way, you might just make a new friend.

I am severely near-sighted; I am aware of the difficulties.

I see what you mean, but when this happens it's all so spontaneous, so I get all nervous and don't know what to do, and my mind starts asking all this questions about what is happening trying to interpret the body language and the context. What I need to do is simple is just to not over-think, man up and build more self-confidence.

I wouldn't know if what they like is the insanity; I'd rather think they like original/different individuals.

If you can muster the confidence to say "hi" and smile as you pass, then slow down or stop and turn to look at her again. She may look back at you. Mind you, when you give the second look, don't look her up and down, just limit to smiling at her. I got this today and thought my father-in-law was going to knock the guy's head off his shoulders. lol

Even if she doesn't say more than "hi" back at you and continues on with her day, that's a successfully shared moment of attraction and it should be a proverbial feather in your confidence cap for the next girl you talk to.

Why would you want to pick up people in the street?

She's probably thinking: "Hmm. Wonder how big his wallet is."

where else do you suggest?

I've tried okcupid and aspieaffection but haven't met "the one."

Not only that, but according to Bourdieu, people consider:
Social, economic, cultural and symbolic capital and according to Hakim also erotic capital.

So if you think about it in multivariate statistics terms, each person applies different weights to the importance they give to the attributes.