I went out with a guy that i knew for awhile and we were friends for a couple of years and i met him online, but he lived further away from me. He told me he doesn't get emotionally attached to others and hasn't had many relationships that last long. Time went on and we started having feeling for each other but he doesn't open up and all and is a closed book, but i still had feelings for him and wanted to try and he told me he was attached to me. The only thing is he would listen to me when i would talk to him and kind of be there for me but then just wanted phone sex from me and then got off the phone shortly after that. We moved in together to get to know each other better and it didn't work out because of my problems and him being stressed or i was stressing him out, so he moved back to where he originally lived. When he lived with me it was awkward and he spent time cleaning my house all day away from me cause he seems OCD and all he wanted to do is have sex with me we didn't talk much or if we did he didn't tell me much about him. He also had a girl on his myspace that was looking for him at a late hour and she is from another state too and that was during the time he was talking sexual on the phone to me before he moved in. He told me he has been friends with her for years but i wondered if he had phone sex with her too cause of the way he was with me. He moved in saying he wanted to better himself going to school and all and he never talked about helping me with the bills or anything for staying with me. I also have kids too and he was distant from them and they are special needs but he works with special needs kids for years so i thought it might work. I don't know if he was using me for a place to stay cause he always talked about someday leaving and just being there for each other for the time he is here but he kept asking me if he would hurt me if he left someday. After he moved back to his original state when things didn't work he still talked to me on the phone usually just listening to me vent if there was any problems in my life and he stayed quiet then switched to talking sexual to me, and he would come to visit on his breaks from school once a year. I tried to stop talking to him because i felt all that we went through ruined our friendship and i wanted to get over him but after a few months he contacts me and said he missed me and was still there is i changed my mind and i was dumb to answer him. He thens asks me to visit on his break again from school months later and i did cause i missed him. All he wanted to do was have sex with me when i was there and then tells me we should stop talking and move on with our life the day before i left (his choice this time) which i think is for the best anyway but i wasted money and i was hurt again. I don't know sometimes if this guy was being genuine or if he used me for sex and he would have used me for a place to live it is hard to tell, but i always give people the benefit of the doubt. I feel gullible now and stupid for all i fell for but i am smart too and getting back on my feet and never going to let this guy hurt me. I stopped talking to him and i am not gonna talk to him again because everytime we meet and then decide not to talk i feel hurt. Part of it is my fault because i obsess over people sometimes and how i want the relationship to go but when i am in the relationship it doesn't go the way i think about it in my mind. I am not bashing this guy he was my friend for a long time and it is a shame to lose a friend over being more and ruining our friendship. But i do think all he seemed to do is want sex or phone sex if he was away and otherwise didn't talk much about his life and just listened to me. I am better off without him and i am getting stronger everyday, but he still hurt me and i spent money on going to see him and he wasted my time. I am a better person now because of this and learned from my mistakes.
16 May 2011, 12:04 pm
