The majority of Aspies do eventually date and have sex and even get married, it might just take them longer than ordinary people. Some people remain virgins forever, but not the majority.
The more you practice socializing and the more motivated and persistent you are, the better you'll get at it. That'll only increase your chances of meeting someone. It's a difficult and unpleasant thing to force yourself to socialize with the constant risk of rejection, but if you can be stubborn and driven enough and have a game plan and support from someone like a therapist, you can do it. I used to be incapable of even asking a person the time, let alone starting a conversation with someone I was attracted to. It took me years, but I did learn to socialize almost normally even though it's all an act.
The only way you could assure yourself of remaining a virgin forever would be to never even try to meet anyone. You may never achieve the level of a Casanova, but at least you don't have to become some weird creepy person mumbling to a potted plant in the corner. Every effort you make and every improvement you achieve will help you a lot for the rest of your life. Just don't allow the first few failures to discourage you. You will fail a lot at first and it will take time to improve.
Also make sure that you get, and take, the advice of someone on your hairstyle and clothing. Wearing stuff that's out of date or doesn't match prevents you from being able to impress girls with your wit and charm. You must dress the part if you want to act the part.
12 Jun 2011, 7:49 pm
