difference between online gf and girl who's friend?

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my aspie bf may have an online gf.

what does that mean?

should i be offended? break up?

What kind? OkCupid/ dating site online GF or world of warcraft?

Also, is he flirting/ trying to make plans to meet or just talking to a person who happens to be a girl on the internet?

There is a difference between a girlfriend and a pen pal.

Facebook; flirting and no plans on meeting (that I know of).

it's not a good sign. I know for me Facebook banter never materialized into something IRL but it can vary. Personally I would not break up with him for this. There is a difference between having an affair and being playful with a friend. If something happens IRL or it you are keeping him in leu of better prospects and don't actually like him that much feel free to dump him.

I flirt with my female friends fairly often even though nothing is going to come of it. Really use your own judgement. If it's bothering you and you cannot tolerate it tell him that it makes you feel jealous and you would like him to stop. Be warned, however, that I have dumped girls before who tried to tell me who I could and could not be friends with and unless there is a real problem you may come off as controlling.

Even though he never met physically, I certainly feel offended. At least you will have to have a serious talk with him.

Curiosity: How did you discover this?

Even though he never met physically, I certainly feel offended. At least you will have to have a serious talk with him.

Curiosity: How did you discover this?

he used my phone to check his facebook and didn't sign out properly....

How do you know it's his gf? What's the flirting like - sort of subtle playful or more sexual in nature? And if you 2 haven't talked about it yet then how do you know it's exclusively online?

Anyway in reply to the question in the OP: yes I consider that cheating. If you have 2 relationships going on at once regardless of it being long distance, online or offline it's still cheating to me. I would be pissed if I found out my significant other had an online boyfriend or boy she seriously flirts with (super sexual may even cyber sex or whatever), light flirting is okay and is normal but anything more than that and I'd be pissed.

You have to remember whats online is likely not true.
I have personally seen girls online lie about every single detail about there life. Literally 100% zero truth. They are manipulating how people think about them and their emotions to get something they want.
You can consider yourself emotional target practice.
You have to remember there are no negative consequences for lying online.


Below are the kind of mentalities I am talking about, the first two girls, this is not uncommon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLxcThhXsYg

he wrote a message to someone else: 'i asked her to be my online girlfriend'

How old are you two?

Damn straight you should be offended. If you have a girlfriend, you are exclusive, no dating other people.

yeah i would call that cheating.

I would see that as cheating.

You don't ask a girl who's a friend to be your online girlfriend and flirt with her.

As I understand it, OP, and not OP's BF is the one who asked the girl to be her BF's Girlfriend while posing as him on Facebook. Not sure if that would change the judgement, however.