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16 Jun 2011, 1:35 pm

Today i have developed a threatening persona about me. i have developed a threating attitude towards women becuase of rejection etc........ 5 years ago and even as recently as 3 years ago girls used to like talking to me but today they don't act as warm towards me as they used. toay i have developd this kind of self conciouss indifference towars women and i feel more comftable talking to guys than girls. kinda like a misognist attitude

here is a list of possibility
maybe my looks have faded compared to 3 or 5 years ago and that is why women are not as interested?
my aspergers behaviour has become more easier for them to detect?
i avoid eye contact with women these days becuase of fear of rejection
I have a middle parting hairstyle? 3 years ago i had a roman hairstyle
years of anger and depression showing up in my personality?



How can i take small steps to get rid of this of this threatening vibe i keep giving off? i just want women to nice too me again and talk to me like they used



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16 Jun 2011, 2:03 pm

What happened today?( I never want to ask any private things, but it seems like many men here developed similar things)

Women can be so...But all the above does not matter that much to women, actually....As long as you have a nice, kind personality and show it...

I don't think most women would have such ability to detect AS....Even AS women....

Eye contact does not mean rejection... They do not care...I am sorry for using such language, but they seems careless on this point..NT would act more directly...

Most of these possibilities seems would not occur...Apart from that if your looking have faded...

But the problem maybe not even about such things, communications, probably....



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16 Jun 2011, 2:16 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Today i have developed a threatening persona about me. i have developed a threating attitude towards women becuase of rejection etc........ 5 years ago and even as recently as 3 years ago girls used to like talking to me but today they don't act as warm towards me as they used. toay i have developd this kind of self conciouss indifference towars women and i feel more comftable talking to guys than girls. kinda like a misognist attitude

here is a list of possibility
maybe my looks have faded compared to 3 or 5 years ago and that is why women are not as interested?
my aspergers behaviour has become more easier for them to detect?
i avoid eye contact with women these days becuase of fear of rejection
I have a middle parting hairstyle? 3 years ago i had a roman hairstyle
years of anger and depression showing up in my personality?



How can i take small steps to get rid of this of this threatening vibe i keep giving off? i just want women to nice too me again and talk to me like they used


You are 21. 3 Years ago you were 18. 5 years ago you were 16.

The neurological differences between 16 and 21 and even 18 and 21 are fairly large. Between those ages people change significantly and their social skills become more refined. They begin to focus on college or a job, have more stable relationships, and aren't as socially prolific as they used to be...usually anyway.

So it's not really a woman thing. I think people in your age group have just moved to a different level of social functioning while you have not.



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16 Jun 2011, 2:23 pm

what do you mean neurologica differences



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16 Jun 2011, 2:43 pm

Jamesy wrote:
what do you mean neurologica differences


As people move from infancy to childhood to adulthood, the brain develops until it reaches it's adult form. It makes it's final development jump during the teenage years. The brain of a teenager is different than that of an adult in multiple ways.



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16 Jun 2011, 2:49 pm

the problem is i think is that i am guessing most girls would say about me on there first impression or judging my appreance "i have no interest in him"

nothing really exciting about my appreance you know that keanu reeves type of look like dark hair, dark brown eyes (that are blank and lifess) etc etc...... a lot of girls prefer blonde haired blue eyed girls.



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16 Jun 2011, 3:54 pm

Jamesy wrote:
the problem is i think is that i am guessing most girls would say about me on there first impression or judging my appreance "i have no interest in him"

nothing really exciting about my appreance you know that keanu reeves type of look like dark hair, dark brown eyes (that are blank and lifess) etc etc...... a lot of girls prefer blonde haired blue eyed girls.


I think most women prefer darker hair to be honest. Do you see a lot of blond haired, blue eyed male models? No, not really.



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16 Jun 2011, 4:04 pm

I agree..



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16 Jun 2011, 5:47 pm

"I think most women prefer darker hair to be honest. Do you see a lot of blond haired, blue eyed male models? No, not really"

True but unfournantly soceity is a lot harsher on men when it comes to beuty standars. u see almost any women of any size can be prettey or beutiful if she has a makeover. obviously not so if your a man. society is very unfair on men.



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16 Jun 2011, 5:55 pm

Jamesy wrote:
"I think most women prefer darker hair to be honest. Do you see a lot of blond haired, blue eyed male models? No, not really"

True but unfournantly soceity is a lot harsher on men when it comes to beuty standars. u see almost any women of any size can be prettey or beutiful if she has a makeover. obviously not so if your a man. society is very unfair on men.


Here is George Clooney when he was 13, looking probably worse than many posters here looked at 13.

http://www.theattractionforums.com/cult ... ation.html

And when you scroll down you see him as an adult.


Lots of men make themselves over. You can too.



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16 Jun 2011, 7:42 pm

Also beckham had a makeover

David Beckham older
http://www.gettyimages.co.uk/detail/209 ... ages-Sport

young david beckham
http://www.gettyimages.co.uk/detail/107 ... on-Archive