ever been really obsessed with a girl before?

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....even to the point of semi-stalking? i have and i really regret it. I tried talking to her a few times and i think she might have liked me, and she lived across the hall. But I just never ran into her enough and never made it happen? I never just knocked on her door....I think that would have been inappropriate since I didnt know her.....................I just never came into contact with her enough.........Im not hideous looking......alot of people would think im attractive. I guess I just never made it happen... I guess....I dont know wtf......

I even tried making friends with some of her nerd guy friends who were next door to me, and I never ever mentioned her, or anything like that. I just tried hanging out with them playing video games and such, and even they rejected me. f*****g b*****s.

And then a year ago she had some event for a club and posted it on facebook to all her "friends"(I was one of her friends.....I got paranoid that she thought I was stalking her so I sent her a friends request). I so I actually showed up to the event and couldn't talk to her it was so awkward, Never saw her again after that......all i remember is what an ass I made out of myself and ashamed that I checked her FB and myspace cuz I had nothing else better to be doing.

I feel like such a loser recanting this, but this girl was really gorgeous, and I wish I would have found a way to connect with her....or s**t...any other cute girl in the vicinity that I missed a thousand and one chances with........

I just feel like its never.......NEVER f*****g NevEr.....Im NEVER going to.....its NEVER going to happen. I HOPE NOT......I so f*****g hope that that isn't true all i want to do grow and mature and not be a little boy my whole life......but f**k it really feels like its never going to happen

It's one thing to be obsessed, but if testing the waters goes badly or if things go sour between you (whether you are in a relationship or not), just back off and find some other way to deal with it. If that happens, maybe some day she will be more friendly to you again but don't bank on it. Chances are it would be easy for her to get a restraining order, and that could potentially haunt you for life. This sounds like a situation the internet can't adequately help you with. I suggest you see a professional counselor.

I had a situation like that. I think most guys go through a period where they become very interested in one particular girl. One of the hardest things is trying to muster the courage to talk to a woman you like and have a ..well meaningful conversation , make her see you differently to all the other guys out there.

I'm still prone to feeling obsessional about the occasional woman. I've never done anything like stalking. In fact doing anything about it at all has been a big problem for me, until more recently. I've long been aware of the futility of obsession, but it still catches me out. I can make sure I get on with my life, instead of daydreaming about some girl all day as my life collapses around me, and I can even think that I'm not really being swayed much, but the moment I get any indication that I may be losing the object of my affection, I realise that my hopes of getting it together with her were the only thing that was propping me up.emotionally

Having a partner seems inexorably important to me, so no matter how hard I try to get used to the single world, as soon as a likely-looking wench drifts my way, nothing else matters. I keep my life going....I hold down the job, pay the bills, eat, keep clean, etc., so it never seriously interferes with my life in practical terms, but I know what I'm feeling, and it doesn't change.

Did I miss something?
Wanting to bone someone isn't what I'd call an "obsession",
though the actions you took in pursuit of that goal were pretty deranged.

More times than I'd like to admit but after a while it fades. I've never been even close to a stalker though, I leave them alone and pretend to lose interest in them even though I still think about them sometimes.