A Local Man has the Hots for me.

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There's a man who walks around the Langley Mall, who has the Hots for me. He's a poorer man, Overweight, and his Teeth could use a little work, but I don't care. I think his Inner Beauty radiates though the Outer Lines of his Body. He also has a very slight Cockney Accent. His Aura appears to be a very bright White. I'm sure that if he was to live with me, for a while, my impeccible Grooming Habbits would motivate him to follow my Lead. Oh, well. I still think he's adorable. He's told me that I was pretty and that he liked the Cap that I was wearing. The Hat is covered with Silver Sequins and I'm guessing that I've reminded him of the Pearly Kings of his Native London. I can't stop thinking about it. Too bad I can't let him live with me. My Mom won't let extra people live in the House. We're just getting by, ourselves.

What do you know about him?
1) Does he have a job?
2) Criminal history?
3) Do you know of his last girl friend? make sure shes not dead : )

...Criminal history? You think he'll really open up to that?

"Oh yeah, I'm a twice convicted rapist! What have you been doing?"

Well I was more thinking doing an online investigation.

But his AURA is WHITE! God people! were you listening!?

No thats funny my mind rejected that line. CockneyRebel is 1960's hippie thinking
not crazy. My thoughts were more along the lines she does not know this guy
at all. And she needs to investigate now to find the dirt on him.

One of the best things you can do is keep us posted as to how it's going with this guy. We can help you spot red flags.

CockneyRebel

It is usual to spend some time getting to know a guy before you invite him to live at your house. So there is a lot you can do by way of spending time with the guy getting to know all about him before you invite him home. And then at some point you might be able to persuade your mum to let him come around for dinner with your family - but he doesn't need to move in.

You can wait until he asks for your contact details - then you will really know if he's seriously interested in you or just thinks you're pretty to look at. Or you can ask him if he's single (that's important), and maybe if he'd like to do something you like doing (be specific) with you. I'd suggest a long walk - like 10 laps around the mall.

Trust me - impeccable grooming habits do not inspire same in others. Sometimes the reverse can happen.

CockneyRebel I also see people inner beauty as opposed to their outer beauty. I have face blindness. Nevertheless you shouldn't be thinking about moving him in with you until you know him much, much better, even if he does have a white aura.

I hope he is as nice as you think he is. Unfortunately, there are people out there who are very skilled at manipulating people and presenting themselves as harmless, when in fact they are not harmless. I hope you take care and keep your guard well up until you know much more about him. I wouldn't take his word for anything either until you have met his family and have seen how he interacts with them. Has he recently just appeared in the mall?

You say he is poor, is a single man, and walks around the mall. If he has recently moved from the downtown eastside BIG REDFLAG. That could mean he is running away from a bad reputation or some other circumstance in the downtown eastside.

I hope he is as nice as you seem to think but I also fear for your safety.

Congrats.

To be honest, who cares about whether he has a criminal record of a job or whatever. I think it's just really nice that someone likes you and you appreciate the complement.

Why do you want to invite him to live with you, doesn't he have a place of his own? I don't think he will change his grooming habits, like you say he is an older man, he is probably too set in his ways to change now.

I'm leaning over toward the "Great! You have an admirer and goody good for you!" camp, but I would also want to see you use caution and only let an unknown person into your life, Very slowly.

There are plenty of ways to have an enjoyable contact, around the mall for instance, with him that would ensure your safety, also. Long walks and coffee talks can be a good slow start to good things in the future. Don't rush into anything that you aren't totally comfortable with. Try to trust your mom's comfort level, also.

Another indicator to determine if he's for real: Find out if he will give you his contact info without you giving yours to him. That sounds like a dirty trick at first, but think about it for a minute. If he's really who he might claim to be (and harmless), he would have no problem giving out certain info (phone #, job info, for instance) without expecting anything in return. Maybe a phone call from you, but you're in control of that.

Keep in mind that YOU have the upper hand. YOU are the good looking woman who attracted his attention. He is at your beck and call, if he's like the rest of us guys, or your mercy if he's really lonely. YOU call the shots.

Good For You! You have an admirer!

I've been thinking about what you all have told me. I guess the reason that I've felt like I was swept off of my Feet, was because somebody at my Clubhouse had reminded me of the Loss that I've experienced close to Early December. Than I've felt that I was being swept away by the first person on the street, to give me a compliment. That person happened to be a Man, so the feeling was intensefied. I wouldn't mind being friends with him, and that's how far I'm going to go. If he brings up any "Funny Stuff", than I'll break off the Friendship. There's a chance that I might never encounter him again, as well.

Mee too. I'd cry if you got hurt.

You're shagadelic to me, baby

PS - I can't see your avatar anymore. Has it gone in sympathy?

So Cockney_rebel,

What's happening? Did you see him again? Is he shagaedlic?

Can you give us an update?