Is anyone else protective of crushes?

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I feel protective whenever I like someone & the more I like em; the worse it is. I worry about em when there's no rezone to & there's absolutely nothing I can do because I cant even talk to em. I know it's illogical for me to worry but I can not help it & it's painful sometimes. Is this a natural thing

Can't say I've ever been like that with someone I wasn't at least casual friends with.

That's good. Are you like that with friends? I screw friendships up when I like em because I get protective. I can NOT like someone without feeling protective

You're protective of people you can't even talk to? What people? Why can't you talk to them?

I've had crushes on people who resented me almost as much as I adored them. I performed thought experiments where I rationalized that I'd be willing to put myself in harm's way to protect them if needed, even if it cost me my life, but those were only hypotheticals. I never thought anything dangerous would actually happen to them.

Person I'm feeling protective of rite now is a celebrity crush. I felt protective of girls from work before who I couldn't really talk to because they didn't like me because someone had said some negative stuff about me to them

Actually, no. I only become protective of someone I'm romantically involved with.

Feeling protective interferes with my sleep because my mind is worrying. I seriously need a wife or girl-friend; I would sleep better with my arm around em. How can I find a girl who would like a very protective guy Being needy, clingy, dependent, immature & more sensitive & emotional are pluses

Hrm...

I can be very protective with crushes.
For me it is similar to the feeling I get with anyone I'm fond of, as well as protective there's also an element of being territorial - I think this to a degree can be normal, I suppose if you care for someone you'd want them safe and if you are attracted to someone you may be a little territorial (I've noticed this a lot with NT women around males, not just their crushes or partners but with men they're close to also).

What you describe isn't what I'd consider normal.
Possibly to be expected if you're lonely, but I'd hope that you understand that this feeling and being needy, clingy, dependent, etc. isn't great, certainly I'd question the mental/emotional state of a woman who would get involved with a guy who has these sorts of issues, sorry but it's not healthy dude.

I am very lonely. I don't exactly see those things as negative traits thou I do understand how they can cause problems for lots. I think it would be better if I was with someone who was the same way because we'd both be kind of dependent on each other. We'd help each other out & deal with things together. Support can go a long way. That's how it was for me & my ex

Dude, get a GFE escort and get that stink of virgin off of you.

Having sex doesn't really interest me Ricky

It sounds like you are trying to find meaning in your life. "Love" is just an ephemeral swirl of emotions that will not provide anything lasting. Dive into hobbies. They are more fun.

Hobbies get boring after a while. Having a relationship made me a better person. There's lots of things about myself I can & want to improve on but I can NOT do it on my own for myself. I need a relationship to motivate me & provide support to help me change

Yeah, in a big way. Of friends, too. It used to get me into trouble because of course these people had no idea why I was behaving the way I was. But now I recognise these feelings, I try not to act on them. Way easier said than done though!

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