i'm screwed!

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Okay so I've gone on a few dates with this guy. He's adorable, is really sweet, and we talk on the phone a lot. The only problem is he gets really shy around girls, I usually have to make the moves. I can only do this for a certain amount of time, I don't have the guts to kiss him - usually guys have to kiss me first. I could tell at times he wanted to kiss me but he didn't go through with it. I think we're planning something again really soon like in a few days. What should I do?

Could you ask him, "Would you like to kiss me?"

Let him know that it's ok.

Give a look like you're ready to be kissed. Move in a little closer, and look up towards him.

If he still doesn't go for the kill, make it blatant and ask "well, aren't you going to kiss me?"

You might try a non serious approach like - 'What does a girl have to do to get kissed around here?'

Try wearing a noticable amount of lipstick like you're expecting it. Far more subtle, notices if the guy is paying attention.

I'm not sure if the lipstick idea is the way to go ... if you wear too much he might get some on his face, which if he's shy would probably embarass him. Still, if you know it won't transfer then it might be a good idea.

devonmike's suggestion could work - or, just go ahead and kiss him. If he looks that much like he wants to kiss you but is too scared to, I doubt he'd mind you making the first move.

Just make the first move.
Plenty of girls have done that with me with the kissing thing.
Not because i'm too shy to do it, but because i don't like kissing too much
There is nothing wrong with the women taking the innitiative
If you do it a few times he wil proberbly start doing it himself if he wants to.

On the other hand you could just grab him by the nuts and stick your tongue down his throat.

Then you most likely really will be screwed.

I don't know any guys who would oppose to the girl making a move.

You're not screwed. Infact I think many people here would love to be in your situation!

that dude sounds exactly like me, do you want him to show public affection or something? maybe thats the problem

nah he just gets really nervous around girls (so says my friend who dated him like last year) and i get too nervous to make moves on someone. we're both such passive people it's kind of funny, when we went out to dinner a few weeks ago we had the hardest time deciding what to do, back and forth it was like "i'll do whatever you wanna do!" until i finally decided upon something so we could move on the convarsation. he's a funny kid though haha

Sounds like the guy is a bit of a coward.

I encourage it too, seeing as I am currently trying to get over a similar cowardice and I would certainly appreciate it if a woman decided to make the decision for me. However, the guy is still a coward. For that matter, I probably am as well. So we all suck!