Approaching women (3 links)

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Hey, I found this reads interesting and helpful. I'll guess that for most of us Males in this forum, for many reasons we do not have enough experience about the things to do when approaching the other sex. But that's no excuse not to try to begin learning.

The links are more about how to avoid being creepy and how to be respectful.

A Straight Geek Male's Guide to Interaction with Females
Schrodinger's rapist
Don't Be That Guy.

Why isn't there something for girls approaching guys!

There is!

"Hello"

because according to our society that shouldnt happen and you should just be pretty and stand there waiting for some guyto pick you up. Which is why guys need to have POS books that actually do of no help to think of approaching you. Thats why.

there should be, somewhere.

As mentioned, a big issue is that sexism has made it so only guys are supposed to approach girls, which is dumb.


But there are plenty of guides in the internet which I just found using google. Unfortunately, I cannot really know about their quality so I will not post them, hope a gal with experience on good guides on this would show up and help you.

That is lame. I reminds me of church dances I would go to when I was younger. Especially this one dance where you put a shoe in the middle and whatever guy picked up your shoe danced with you. Mine wasn't picked up, but my friends was, and we were wearing the same shoes. I thought whatever, and asked guys to dance anyways (especially when I was really young). Unfortunately it doesn't work that way with the dating world because a date is much more of a commitment.

Also, if we are just standing there looking pretty, then of course we get fat someday.

That's why, huh?
Lame.

I know, it is ret*d!

There are 8 x more guy than girls on this site. Q my life. (as apposed to fml, q means quit, )

thanks Vexcalibur. I read all three articles from start to finish. I've learned one or two things from them too; one being that it's probably not a good idea to approach a woman in pubic. Ever:S

I think the reason why male approaches female is because the opposite is very dangerous. Male usually just want sex and will bang whoever, while women usually are trying to start a relationship. If you approach a man who only wants sex he will play with you just to get what he wants. If you approach a woman who is not interested in you she will say "NO". We do not need to "spread the seed", so we are usually not THAT interested in casual sex.

I read all three, start to finish, and I found all worthwhile. I struggled to finish the last one, though. It brought back bad memories and made me want to give up. I'll probably feel delighted if I hear anyone here in West Texas have a discussion about privilege or entitlement, though, so in a way it made me homesick for civilization.

I know it's probably covered in these books, but being an amateur magician with few friends, I have to approach random people to practice and not seem creepy. It's nervewracking and incredibly difficult.

Anyway, I came across this formula that always works for me - I use it for practising but others can use it to talk to new people, I guess. Compliment, then introduction, then question. In the context I use it in, it's usually "Hi, you look like someone who's up for some fun! Anyway, I'm Annie, I'm a performer - a magician. How about I show you something?"

I imagine using that formula just to approach someone to start a conversation would work, too.

These are terrible articles. It's all "don't" advice that if any man internalized, he would become a nervous wreck always thinking he's making a mistake. Any man can follow this advice by simply doing nothing at all.

You have to make mistakes to learn. Lots of them.

They're okay, but I would have liked some advice on what to do as well as what not to do. In addition, some of them made the idea of approaching women, whatever the circumstances, seem unreasonably intimidating.