Scripts getting flipped?

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I'm curious for some input on a particular societal dynamic right now: ie. women outpacing men in the information-aged workplace. I keep hearing it, maybe with AS you're not feeling it quite as much but it seems like women are outperforming guys on all kinds of levels in all kinds of environments, mainly that the single-focus issue or 'multitasking' simply isn't as relevant, or the ability to pull order from chaos which, at least for myself I can say executive functioning gets in the way of that big time.

I realize that a lot of women right now are in fact making it to the top of their fields, probably have had it put up in their ear far more times than they like to consider, that they're supposed to be dating/marrying up; at the same time they're at the top of the mountain, realizing that there's really little up there aside from themselves. Its not to say that chasing the best of your abilities is a bad thing - on the contrary to live what you would feel is an authentic life you kind of need to, to have concerns of 'Will people be able to relate to me?' decide it is much worse for the problems it brings.

My question on this - ARE women in these situations doing better or worse at accepting the possibility of somewhat of a role reversal better or about the same as the media is portraying it? I've seen lots of places, at least on the news, where women are wondering where the real men have gone but I'm not sure if they're being overrepresented. I'm starting to come up with the hypothesis also that a lot of these so-called Peter Pan guys who live at home through their 30's playing more video games than teenagers are caught at the other end where on one hand they're obsolete to do much more than work either five dollars above minimum per hour or somewhere under $50k per year; when they look around, think about the role they're supposed to fill its more like they're palliating a sense that the world has absolutely no use for them. Obviously there are some straight-up mooches in the mix but I'm tending to think more toward the other guys who want more, have thrown their best efforts in and are just trying to keep themselves in from spending money they don't have or self-examine to really fall into a deep depression.

In a sense its a sign that roles are becoming obsolete and the question has been, to people who haven't had political philosophy rather than science jammed down their throats; how quickly can we shift our biology to new paradigms? How much of typical gender role can we overcome and how much of it will we have digging at us no matter what we tell ourselves?

I don't want to go into it too much but, there are a lot of guys permanently cast for just this application by society as either fighter/protectors or nimb, and appearance is pretty much everything in this area. I'm pretty well marked for 'nimb' and I realize that I've never been comfortable with it but, I'm also realizing that the part of me who's scared of dating 'up' or being in relationships with someone who's got way more social power or even societal and wage power than I do needs to be batted down, simply in that I believe its counterproductive and counter-practical but also it seems like its self evident, people need people, and I hate the notion of pushing people away either over society's insecurities or even my own based on how I've been abused in my past and largely by my own gender for not fitting the old maxim. I'm just wondering how much reality there is to what I'm contemplating right now - is the future looking pretty much 50/50 or are previous cast-misfits going to be a growing and sizable slice of bachelors and bachelorettes who are something like permanent singles all because their physical form or behavior couldn't accommodate the reptile-brain of their species?

Shifting biology takes long, long times. What our society has created is a new thing, and could be a blip.

Populations are declining and bound to decline further in such societies as you describe

What the heck is a 'nimb'?

Picture a bunch of thin, frail, timid, docile, conservative, 'deer in the headlights' beta guys; or just think of the local government audit or military accountancy office - the gears will turn in the right direction.

My tendency on this is similar to yours but - I've seen it go that way where powerhouse women have picked up essentially man-wives and I guess I'm wondering if the lemons to lemonade threshold is within or past most people's means by say....35 or 40... to talk themselves down a different path.