Should we sticky this ost[pool]

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Well most of you are probably unfamiliar with this but grisha had a brilliant idea a while ago about creating a sticky where we would post posts that had a huge impact on members(you cant sticky a post so a thread full of memorable posts is all we can have until someone comes up with something better).



Anyways that idea was gathering dust for a while but it seems that someone went ahead and suggested this post to be stickied:



]:oops: if i knew anything at all, chances are i'd be a married grandfather by now and solidly middle class. but at least from decades of watching from the sidelines as other people screw up in manifold ways, i can say what NOT to do-

*Never neglect oneself, never let oneself go to pot- stay in shape, in the same shape one was in as a young adult. never forget to maintain god's temple that is one's body. that means regular hygiene for one's insides as well as outsides [bathing, dental care, skin care, proper nutrition, grooming, regular exercise].
*Never forget to take care of oneself as one would a precious possession, be gentle with oneself. if one has the common aspie deficits in proprioception, arrange one's local environment to be as accident-proof as one can make it.
*Never neglect to learn to imitate other people's superficial social behaviors at least. if people smile and wave at you, unfailingly return the gestures no matter what. even if one doesn't feel nice, take pains to treat others as one would be treated.
*Never forget that one is just as much a child of the universe as the next fellow, and just as deserving of love as the next fellow, and with just as much a right to expect good things from life as the next fellow. if it is the last thing one does, one should ashcan one's inferiority complex every time thoughts of such pop up.
*Never let oneself appear desperate. it is the extremely rare compassionate person who responds well to another's desperation. comport oneself as a person deserving of respect, which means maintaining erect posture, moving deliberately, NOT looking down at one's feet EVER when another person looks at you- if you must avert your gaze, use the "cut-off" gesture of looking quickly aside as though focused on something in the distance.
*Never forget that the search for a mate is akin to a search for a business partner, treat such a relationship as a business at first, you are looking for mutual compatibility and synergy. sex appeal must be an initial part of attracting somebody [hence your diligent maintenance of your own body] but not to the point where one becomes obsessed with the first looker one sees. avoid "fixer-uppers," as human beings are not like a rehab-able house or restorable old classic car. expecting another person to cooperate with one's plans for their improvement can only lead to mutual disappointment. mutual compatibility must come first and last and inbetween. this means casting a very wide net, to include people from other races and countries. and just as businesses obtain consultants [business matchmakers of a sort] to facilitate partnerships, so to should the aspie seeking a mate. one should at least find places where other aspies congregate. if such places don't have the desired gender of people, the people therein will surely know at least one person who IS of the desired gender.
*Never neglect one's mind, always be reading something more complex than a comic book, something which forces one to think. even though some call it propaganda, read a daily newspaper or news periodical without fail, as then one will at least be abreast of current events and can speak comprehendingly of same.
*Never forget the real golden rule [you know, the one about "do onto others as you would have others do onto yourself"]. if you hastily cut others to the quick, there is no guarantee they won't do the same to you.

above all, try to be the person you want to meet.
now, if only any of this would've worked for me.

Thoughts on this issue?.

This all sounds good to me!

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