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23 Aug 2011, 11:01 pm

Great thread. It's good to know happiness is possible.



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23 Aug 2011, 11:05 pm

i dont think anyone has said its impossible for aspies to have succsesful relationships. But there is just such a large group of us that noone will even look at let alone date.



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23 Aug 2011, 11:30 pm

This thread does give me some hope. I'm glad some Aspies find love.

But I am an Aspie male, who is nearing his 29th birthday, and never had a girlfriend before. So I am running low on hope. Any success stories here from happily married Aspie men?



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23 Aug 2011, 11:49 pm

What the heck kind of proof is this? :?

I see no sources at all.

I'll believe this "proof" when you provide me a complete bibliography in MLA citation format, young man.


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24 Aug 2011, 9:26 am

sagan wrote:
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I like this thread.


Me too. :)


I do too


/shameless bump for optimism and positive outcomes.



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24 Aug 2011, 1:32 pm

A very important modification to this subject line would be, "Proof that SOME Aspies can have successful relationships." Many of us just can't, plain and simple.

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24 Aug 2011, 2:48 pm

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24 Aug 2011, 3:02 pm

smudge wrote:
Daryl_Blonder wrote:
A very important modification to this subject line would be, "Proof that SOME Aspies can have successful relationships." Many of us just can't, plain and simple.


If that's you in your avatar, then I don't get why.

As for this thread, I was tempted to point out that it doesn't really prove anything, or teach anyone anything. So, now I have.

Im tempted to point out that while it doesnt prove anything per say its a nice change from the usual posts about wether your partner that mistreats you is an aspie/the opposite gender has it so much easier and nothing you´ll see will change my opinion...


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24 Aug 2011, 3:10 pm

i love my NT wife, she even let me choose our wedding date because the numbers look right. 7/3/10 (7+3=10)

edit: it actually still shocks me when she makes allowances for my aspieness, because i'm not used to anybody thinking of me, understand me, and trying to make me feel comfortable without trying to change me.



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24 Aug 2011, 3:14 pm

smudge wrote:
spongy wrote:
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Daryl_Blonder wrote:
A very important modification to this subject line would be, "Proof that SOME Aspies can have successful relationships." Many of us just can't, plain and simple.


If that's you in your avatar, then I don't get why.

As for this thread, I was tempted to point out that it doesn't really prove anything, or teach anyone anything. So, now I have.

Im tempted to point out that while it doesnt prove anything per say its a nice change from the usual posts about wether your partner that mistreats you is an aspie/the opposite gender has it so much easier and nothing you´ll see will change my opinion...


OK, we get your point.

As I said yesterday Im more than open to discussing any suggestions any member may have because Im aware that there are some things I could be missing but sadly I havent received any suggestions from any member so I dont see a reason to change.

If you happen to have any suggestions Im more than willing to listen.

Btw we get your point as well.


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24 Aug 2011, 3:21 pm

Daryl_Blonder wrote:
A very important modification to this subject line would be, "Proof that SOME Aspies can have successful relationships." Many of us just can't, plain and simple.


Why not?

My uncle has MS and is slowly & painfully dying a very unpleasant death. He can't walk or do anything around the house for himself. He is fat, ugly and penniless. Also quite often severely depressed and on medication for it or taking steroids that turn him into a screaming raging monster.

But he is also in love with a nice, normal, good looking girl and getting married in a few months time.

There are plenty of people in the world with lives/disabilities that are far, far worse than ANY form autism or AS and manage to have relationships. Just because it hasn't happened to you yet doesn't mean it never will, as long as you are prepared to keep trying. :)



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24 Aug 2011, 3:22 pm

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24 Aug 2011, 3:29 pm

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Spongey: Look at my post, first of all. Did I stereotype genders? I think not. It's a new topic that you added.

I didnt imply that you did.
I said that if you have an issue with the way Im dealing with thigns(as your post suggests imo)Im more than willing to listen to your suggestions.


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24 Aug 2011, 3:39 pm

DC wrote:
There are plenty of people in the world with lives/disabilities that are far, far worse than ANY form autism or AS and manage to have relationships. Just because it hasn't happened to you yet doesn't mean it never will, as long as you are prepared to keep trying. :)


I suspect some Aspies have much worse, fundamental problems, such as inability to form any connection with other people.



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