The pursuer and non-persuer

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TeaEarlGreyHot
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24 Aug 2011, 5:52 pm

Do you pursue or not?

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24 Aug 2011, 6:09 pm

I don't know why it won't allow me to add 'male that doesn't pursue'. :shrug:

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24 Aug 2011, 6:19 pm

How about: Male that pursues if given a reasonably unambiguous "green light"?

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24 Aug 2011, 6:29 pm

Male who doesn't pursue because he can't shake the feeling that he will be rejected. I think it's just social anxiety.

Also, I'm really weird. Not just Aspie weird, but more like "Alice in Wonderland" weird.

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24 Aug 2011, 6:30 pm

Grisha wrote:

How about: Male that pursues if given a reasonably unambiguous "green light"?

That would fall under "male that pursues".

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24 Aug 2011, 6:34 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I don't know why it won't allow me to add 'male that doesn't pursue'. :shrug:

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24 Aug 2011, 6:35 pm

Moog wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

I don't know why it won't allow me to add 'male that doesn't pursue'. :shrug:

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Thanks.

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24 Aug 2011, 6:45 pm

Male that pursues here.

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24 Aug 2011, 7:02 pm

I used to be a pursuer, and when that didn't work, I listened to the advice of friends and tried not to pursue (ie, let it happen 'naturally'). After ten years of that not working, and discovering I had AS, I became a pursuer again, but I use a different approach now. This works much better.

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24 Aug 2011, 7:04 pm

I'm a pursuer. I can deal with being pursued, but I much prefer to call the shots.

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24 Aug 2011, 7:05 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

Grisha wrote:

How about: Male that pursues if given a reasonably unambiguous "green light"?

That would fall under "male that pursues".

Oh. Well. I hereby symbolically change my answer then.

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24 Aug 2011, 7:39 pm

I'm a female who neither pursues nor wants to be pursued, for the time being and foreseeable future.

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24 Aug 2011, 8:10 pm

Depends on the dynamics. I like pursuing, but I've had a few times when it was in relation to a guy who seemed very passive or shy and I worried about coming across as too 'Mae West' or something.

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24 Aug 2011, 8:15 pm

blueroses wrote:

Depends on the dynamics. I like pursuing, but I've had a few times when it was in relation to a guy who seemed very passive or shy and I worried about coming across as too 'Mae West' or something.

hmmm, too 'Mae West'?? As someone who enjoys film, I could think of much worse people to come across as!! ! :wink:

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24 Aug 2011, 8:30 pm

blueroses wrote:

Depends on the dynamics. I like pursuing, but I've had a few times when it was in relation to a guy who seemed very passive or shy and I worried about coming across as too 'Mae West' or something.

Yes, this has definitely been a worry for me.

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24 Aug 2011, 8:33 pm

AsteroidNap wrote:

hmmm, too 'Mae West'?? As someone who enjoys film, I could think of much worse people to come across as!! ! :wink:

I suppose it's a matter of taste, lol.

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