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lightening020
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04 Sep 2011, 3:19 pm

...i honestly believe (despite all of the contrary evidence here) that we can learn social skills(if that is a real thing) or to interact with the opposite sex, or to just play the numbers game. Simple. There have been times where I haven't been intimidated, where i just didn't think about it, or for some random strange reason there is a girl talking to me and I just went with the flow.

I really think I could get better at meeting new people, because I have at various times in my past. If anybody here is anything like me, and it sounds like alot of people can relate to some of the posts I make.

...what is really holding me back, and I assume for others here as well, is the negative mindset acquired throughout the whole f*****g life of being alone and depressed and avoidant. Having few friends growing up, and being depressed and lonely really f****d with my head, and of course lack of experience. I just don't feel like i can get over a lack of experience...

It's not really that hard to force myself sometimes to talk to a random girl. what really f***s with my head is knowing i don't have a clue of how to progress, and that I have always been alone.



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04 Sep 2011, 4:35 pm

I feel you. But the only way to make up lack of experience, is to inject yourself into as many new experiences as you can until you understand them.



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04 Sep 2011, 4:47 pm

Progression is difficult. It took me a great deal of repetition to understand it. At some point it wasnt a problem.

At some point you have to let the past go and just pursue experience. Everyone has something to be depressed about. The able ones can set it aside long enough to move forward. It doesn't mean they forget.



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04 Sep 2011, 5:01 pm

I think its possible. I have learned and think I am becoming better at it and i'm sure it depends on the people you are around. If you are liked it is easy to be social.