Has the question 'why would someone like me' ever prevented

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you having or looking for a relationship?

Of course I've had those types of thoughts, but no, they haven't prevented me from looking for relationships. Right now I just don't feel like I need to make any new friends, girl or otherwise.

Yes, of course.

I have to consciously remind myself. I have heart. I care about things. I care about other people, just sometimes have a hard time following. And the very fact that I'm different can be an advantage. I can disclose some of my interests in a medium way and see if I get a ping-ponging back and forth.

No. What is preventing me from looking for a relationship is my own lack of self-esteem, my social anxiety, my fear of rejection... I am my worst enemy right now.

Yes. The idea of me existing in other people's lives used to seem so absurd to me to begin with. When they borrowed an object of mine and I saw them wearing/using it it used to blow my mind. My mind is easily blown.

The idea of me having a positive effect on anybody is beyond my comprehension. I'm either a ghost or an annoying fly, that's the only way things make sense. I don't mind feeling like a ghost, it feels natural.

All the time

No, what has prevented me from looking for a relationship is the fact that the kind of relationship I'd want can never happen.

What is that kind?

One where I'd have a lifelong platonic/emotional bond with a single (preferably male) partner but no sex or touching.

Well you'd just have to find an asexual guy interested in that sort of relationship! (I know they aren't that common but they must exist!) You exist, how do you know there's not someone out there like you looking for the same thing?

I'm sure you already know of this site but I read it for awhile out of curiosity and while wondering if I might be asexual (answer: no): http://www.asexuality.org/home/ - I wonder if you'd have a better chance meeting such people in a concentrated forum like that?

When I see a person I like, and respect for their intelligence, personality, will, character, and in general for being a good person, I immediately regard myself as wrong for her. It's because of my low self regard, and because I care for that person, that I more often than not believe that I would simply be inflicting myself upon her. And those who I have attempted to date I wind up driving away, and making things worse, and losing them as a friend through my sheer incompetence and undesirability. Which all just proves in my own mind that all these people I care about are far, far better without me in their lives.

Yup. I cant be with anyone because i know in the end ill end up hurting them.

I have practically no self confidence, so find it very hard to think someone would like me.
Im not a very sociable person anyway, so tend to stay away from guys, mostly because they would end up pissing me off, or i would get miserable because i know they wouldnt find me attractive.

With someone i do like, i always think there isnt really any point, so end up pushing them away. I guess i just prefer to avoid certain situations than deal with them.

My pride keeps me from staying in a relationship. My ego is just way to big I love myself a lot some times I am just a narcissist.
I love myself to the extreme I keep myself in great shape and in good health simply because I love myself when it comes to confidence.
I have way to much it my arrogance that women cant stand about me even though I understand that it turns women off I just do not care.