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07 Sep 2011, 9:52 am

Ok this issue that all people have a soul mate would that apply to aspies, i always wondered personaly myself as i've never had a proper relationship?



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07 Sep 2011, 10:33 am

The idea of soul mates is just New Age sentimentalism. It is possible to have an intimate bond with multiple people over the course of a lifetime.



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07 Sep 2011, 10:38 am

soul mate is just a romantic term used by alot of people

the truth is most great relationships are made not found or destined to be

relationship do take effort and work to maintain often ppl dont realize this until later in their lives
or people dont know when a relationship has to end and try to keep it going for far too long

i can honestly say i hav met my "soul mate"s and i soul mates becuz i connected to them in a way i cant quite describe, but due to death, bad timing, and mistakes of theirs and my own it didnt work out

and aspies are just as human as anyone else so yeah its possible ull find ur "soul mate" just dont expect them to look or be what u think theyll be, that was one of my mistakes



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07 Sep 2011, 5:29 pm

Soulmate is a term for spiritually connected individuals.

We all have many. 10s of 1000s Not one.



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07 Sep 2011, 5:35 pm

My last love that I still miss, believed she'd met het soulmate. It was her dead husband. This put too much pressure on our relationship.

I personally don't understand how such a concept works. I just wish it could have been me. :cry:



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07 Sep 2011, 5:49 pm

To call someone a "Soulmate" is to believe that in all of the population on Earth, there is only one person that could possibly fulfill all of your material and spiritual desires, and that everyone else is just a poseur.

Thus, if the world population is 6.8 x 10^ (6,800,000,000) people, and half of those are of the appropriate gender, then you have only a 1 out of 3,399,999,999 chance of ever finding that person - that is, 0.000,000,007,5 percent chance (7.5 nano-percent) of ever meeting your "Soulmate".

Better to just settle for someone who is willing and able to form a relationship out of tolerance, respect, trust, and sexual compatibility than to spend the rest of your life asking 34 thousand-million people "Are you the one?"



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07 Sep 2011, 5:50 pm

every now n then someone thinks i'm their soulmate. i think theyre nuts.

maybe i just havent met my soulmate trololo



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07 Sep 2011, 5:53 pm

I believe in compatibility. Soulmate is a term someone uses to describe someone they believe they have some cosmic connection to.


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07 Sep 2011, 6:35 pm

Zinnel wrote:
soul mate is just a romantic term used by alot of people

the truth is most great relationships are made not found or destined to be


I actually agree with this. The concept of a "soul mate" isn't someone that is just "out there" that you have to meet and you'll magically click and everything is going to be rainbows and unicorns and all that fluffy bulls**t. No, I believe that soul mates are forged through the trials of common everyday life that you weather together, as you become a more interconnected couple over time, until you and your partner together become something greater than the sum of either part.

On the other hand, I'm also a christian. I believe that the soul persists through death and all that related dogma. And if you can forge a relationship with a soul mate, someone that you truly connect with, and become one with, I personally believe you can experience life beyond death with your soul mate. Which to me is the point of it all.



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07 Sep 2011, 8:34 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
soul mate is just a romantic term used by alot of people

the truth is most great relationships are made not found or destined to be


I actually agree with this. The concept of a "soul mate" isn't someone that is just "out there" that you have to meet and you'll magically click and everything is going to be rainbows and unicorns and all that fluffy bulls**t. No, I believe that soul mates are forged through the trials of common everyday life that you weather together, as you become a more interconnected couple over time, until you and your partner together become something greater than the sum of either part.

On the other hand, I'm also a christian. I believe that the soul persists through death and all that related dogma. And if you can forge a relationship with a soul mate, someone that you truly connect with, and become one with, I personally believe you can experience life beyond death with your soul mate. Which to me is the point of it all.


i think you hit the nail on the head there. great dishes require a bit of tweaking and marinating, not just the raw ingredients


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07 Sep 2011, 9:55 pm

But that also makes me scratch my head when people keep saying "the right woman will come along"... in reality no woman (or man, depending on your gender and orientation) is truly "right" for you at the outset. It's only through years of working to adapt yourselves to each other that a truly strong relationship can arise. So, for me, it's not about meeting all these random women I've never met before whilst trying to woo them even though I know nothing about them, it's about finding someone who's already a friend and turning that into something more.



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07 Sep 2011, 11:22 pm

I don't really use the term "soul mates" because I'm none too fond of cliches, but I'm ridiculously idealistic about this sort of thing, even though I know better and try not to be :cry:



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08 Sep 2011, 4:30 pm

I've found my soul mate at least three times now, working on #4 at the moment. But can you be soul mates with someone if she doesn't know it? :lol:



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08 Sep 2011, 4:41 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
On the other hand, I'm also a christian. I believe that the soul persists through death and all that related dogma. And if you can forge a relationship with a soul mate, someone that you truly connect with, and become one with, I personally believe you can experience life beyond death with your soul mate. Which to me is the point of it all.


Uh, what denomination are you? Because a lot of Christians believe you won't remain married in the afterlife, because of the verse where Jesus says the resurrected dead are neither given nor taken in marriage in heaven.



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08 Sep 2011, 5:52 pm

arielhawksquill wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
On the other hand, I'm also a christian. I believe that the soul persists through death and all that related dogma. And if you can forge a relationship with a soul mate, someone that you truly connect with, and become one with, I personally believe you can experience life beyond death with your soul mate. Which to me is the point of it all.
Uh, what denomination are you? Because a lot of Christians believe you won't remain married in the afterlife, because of the verse where Jesus says the resurrected dead are neither given nor taken in marriage in heaven.

"Til death do us part".

Amen



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08 Sep 2011, 8:53 pm

It actually stems from a dispute i've had with a part of Christian dogma. Specifically, the part that God loves and cares for everyone. I still believe that God is the creator of all things (regardless of how metaphorical the biblical creation account is), and believe in Jesus as the sole source of salvation (even though I believe He saves all, regardless of who they are). The problem I have though, stems from some logic here:

Given: I am a defective person, sub-human, unable to properly form relationships with others and an incomplete person.

That means that either God is capable of making mistakes, which He isn't. Which means the only other logical conclusion is that there are people such as me that He truly does not care about. I'm just a loose end, a half-person that He has no plan for. If He did, then my prayers for becoming someone truly worthwhile as a person in my own right would be answered.

Hence, I have a desire to become one in spirit with someone else, preferably one that is similarly s**t out of luck. Then maybe I have a shot at being someone worthwhile.