LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
I've got some problems with this.
First of all, I've noticed that a lot of people who are involuntarily celibate justify it by saying "Well, I'm better than you because I know I don't have STDs and I've never gotten a woman pregnant. Hyuk hyuk hyuk!" or something along those lines.
I haven't noticed much of that, but I must say those with that attitude are very off putting.
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I've seen the reverse of this too, when some guy complains about being a virgin, and people console them by saying "Well, you could have herpes or something." Duh! That's what condoms are for. Also, I'm a virgin and yet I have this weird rash on my di¢k that looks like genital warts or something, WITHOUT CONTRACTING IT FROM ANYONE. Sex and not getting a disease are not mutually exclusive.
This is true. Also condoms if not used 100% correctly are like trying to block a brick thrown at you with a plastic bag.
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Second of all, this whole "Nice Guy" archetype. People seem to think that Nice Guys are unsuccessful BECAUSE they're Nice Guys and only because of that, like some guy just woke up one morning and for no reason said "Hey, I think I'll be a Nice Guy." and then they failed because of that. Correlation does not necessarily imply causation; it could mean the two correlating patterns have a mutual cause.
Let me illustrate. All of the Nice Guys I've encountered online had one or more of these traits:
- Ugly and/or fat
- Lives with his parents
- Aspie
- No interests or hobbies
You know, people who were already losers to begin with. I think it's more likely they asked some women out and were rejected every time, so they subconsciously adopted the Nice Guy persona as a defense mechanism.
This is also true. The fact they get rejected is more likely to do with these compared to whether they're nice or not. And half the time they aren't nice anyway.
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The third problem I have is the advice that moderately successful losers give to other losers who are less successful, namely "Play the numbers game." I actually saw someone on the internet say something along the lines of:
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The secret to dating is to play the numbers game. Most women will reject you, that's just the reality. Out of every 50 women I ask out, 40 will reject me, I'll get a date with 10, and one of them will be a potential soulmate.
Really? You've asked out over 50 women? That's just... kinda creepy. Seriously, find a hobby or something.
Overall, I'm not really bothered by all this. Mostly I just find it amusing. But I feel it's my duty as an intelligent person to point out stupidity where I see it.
I don't see asking out 50 women as creepy unless you have no real interest in them, and just want to date anyone. There is some truth to the numbers game, but it's not the only or most efficient way to get anywhere.