Please I need help to turn off my affection for someone

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I am in a third year political science course (I am 22) and the girl I have affections for is in this class and she is taking it with her boyfriend. I don't want to drop the course because it is extremely interesting but I can't take watching her with her boyfriend; its just too much.

Try the following.

Do a massive gross fart and imagine the smell is her breathing on you. If you can associate farts and gross with someone you're infatuated with (especially a hot woman) it sometimes helps.

You need to master mind control though.

If you can't master the mind control.. sit in front of her with your back to her.

'cept she was sitting right in the front row of class.

Well you will have to get there earlier then.

Unless you want to try the mind control? I wasn't joking. I was able to put myself off people with that easily.

Maybe instead of cutting off your affection feelings; you could transfer them onto another girl that you don't have class with. I'm not sure how easy that is for most people to do thou

Last edited by nick007 on 14 Sep 2011, 11:56 am, edited 1 time in total.

Splendid!! !

I am gonna do this farty mind trick right now and right here for a girl I know.

**squeezing brain***

*FOCUS*

ok.... *sniff* sniff*

WHY I am smelling jasmine perfume???

Try to sit somewhere where harder to see her, immerse yourself in the subject. Keep telling yourself it will not go anywhere as she has a boyfriend and is out of bounds.
Once when revising I wrote down everything going round in my mind on paper then said that I would not think about it until after I had done an hour of revision.

Well, depending on how much you like this girl, how much you know her, etc, you'd probably be best off resolving the situation with her and your feelings. And her boyfriend is just that, a boyfriend, they're not married.

I just know from my personal experience if you let those feelings cultivate in your mind without trying to resolve them, you'll destroy your psyche. So, you gotta decide how much you like this girl, and whether or not you can afford to ignore it or not. I'm thinking based on this post that you may like, actually have feelings for her more than "wow she's hot, she'd be so fun to screw" or something.

You pretty much gotta think for yourself on this one. How much is it all worth?

From my experience in an almost exact situation as your's, just ignoring it made things so much worse for me, I believe it may have damaged me forever. But, your experience may vary, and that's what makes it hard. Have fun.

Let me ask you how you've come to this affection for her? Is she a dorm mate? Have you been acquaintances in the same major for a number of years? Is she the roommate of a friend?

Or is this class the first time you've ever seen her? If so, have you ever talked to her?

It's not my problem if people don't want to take non conventional advice. This actually works, in some cases It's made me absolutely repulsed by someone who I used to like.

We've taken the same classes and been in the same program since September 2009, so I've known her for two years.

Sorry to seem so pedantic (there is a reason), but when you say 'known' do you mean 'known of her' from a distance? Or have you actually 'known' her as in chatted, befriended, or otherwise engaged her in a meaningful way?

I've known her as in I've befriended with her, chatted with her numerous times. but now it seems that our "relationship" has taken a turn from friendship to just mere acquaintances now.

The hair of the dog that bit you. Find someone else to talk to.

Sometimes that sense of loss led me directly into something else by giving me some motivation.

but how do i find someone else to talk to?

Thanks Sinestro for indulging me. I was trying to determine if this was an infatuation from afar which might be a different issue with different advice. As it stands, it sounds like a situation I was in during my graduate studies. The only solution I found that worked was, as suggested above, was to sit in front of the woman in question. In my case, I'd already admitted an attraction to her and asked her if she felt the same way (we'd been classmates for nearly a year) so it was doubly difficult to go to class. I didn't even have the excuse that she had a boyfriend; she didn't.

I think Simon's advice is good too. Move on to someone else. That's the best thing you can do for your self-esteem.