In love with an aspie male

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Ive known this aspie guy for about 7 months now, about 2 months ago we started being "friends with benifits."
Yesterday I told him that I am in love with him. Now neither, him or I want a relationship. Ive gone through many relationships with many NT's even had a baby with an NT.... My FWB suspects i have aspergers also. Ive never really fitted in.
Though i have figured out how to kind of read peoples emotions... I can't read his at all.
When I told him that I am in love with him, he smiled at me, and answered with.
"Perhaps your just more compatible with people with aspergers" and then gentle kissed me, he never kisses me.
I really do not like assuming things of people, so I play around in my head a few times, on what he may mean, before I ask.
I want to know what it meant for him by smiling and kissing me like he did after I told him i was in love with him.
He never pushed me away, I usually know cause he goes cold on me. His kiss also felt like it had a small amount of passionin it.
So it really confuses me that he doesnt want a relationship and yet responded to my interest of love in the way he did.
Any feed back would be well appreciated. =)

Seems to me he may be keen to see where things go.

I could be wrong though.

I have found that is one of the most anxiety-inducing aspects of relationships with other aspies - not being able to read their emotions, not being certain how they feel. Loving an aspie requires a lot of emotional strength and self-sufficiency and the skill of being able to provide oneself with the needed reassurance. I focus on the things the guy does. In my experience if the AS guy loves you he'll show it through actions (doing nice and helpful things for you) rather than words.