Sexual consent and Aspergers

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Hello everyone,

I was curious to get some opinions concerning sexual consent and aspergers or highly functioning autism as whole. I have been diagnosed with aspergers and I have only had one rather odd sexual encounter as an adult. It was with a short term friend who I had no feelings for or attraction to thus making it a rather uncomfortable experience to that end. Yet, the thing is I never really expressed much of desire to not have sex, it was like once the topic came up it seemed too late to actually stop. I kind of wanted to but I didn’t want to disappoint my friend. I guess what I am asking is can you not really consent to intercourse but at the same time have no wrong doing on the other persons end?

The encounter seemed to boil down to lack of communication on my end; the trouble is its causing me emotional problems now. Can anyone relate to this at all or am I alone?

I think by not asking to stop or doing anything else to resist, you consented. Out of pity, but consented nonetheless.

Do NOT be afraid to say no in the future. You are NEVER EVER EVER obligated to have sex. Not even if your friend spent thousands of dollars on you.

The term for what you're talking about is called "reluctance". In the absence of a "no" and in the absence of resistance or clear coercion, it was consensual.

People consent to things that bother them all the time without speaking up. It's normal.

If the guy really is a decent guy, a very simple "no" will do, and he should make you feel comfortable with saying it, even if he himself is disappointed.

That's how I operate, and I'm sure a lot of other guys do too...

Reluctance and regret, I suppose it can't really be anything more or less now since we can't change the past. I've been dealing with depression over it though and the idea of consent makes more questions come up. Guess I am idiot when it comes sexuality.



I am a guy lol, but I suppose its the same principle with women

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Last edited by Willard on 01 Oct 2011, 8:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

We're all idiots when it comes to sex. How do you think nature gets an otherwise intelligent species to reproduce?

ha so true, probably the best response I could have hoped for. Thanks for the laugh.