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Sweetleaf
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09 Oct 2011, 11:56 pm
Joker
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10 Oct 2011, 12:42 am
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Sweetleaf
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10 Oct 2011, 12:57 am
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Yeah that is probably a good way to go about it......if I get stressed thinking about what could happen then it will make things akward. And yeah I am not concerned about pressuring myself to do anything, more concerned about not wanting to you know impose on him.......like this weekend I went to stay over night and he had stuff to do so I was going to leave the next day, but then ended up staying the whole weekend because when it came close to time to go the next day he was very depressed/upset about his situation so I did not want to leave him in that state alone and told him I could stay over again which seemed to be what he wanted even though at first he was still going to take me to the bus.
But I always get worried that I'm imposing.....even though I am pretty sure that I did the right thing in that situation.
Joker
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10 Oct 2011, 1:01 am
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Yeah that is probably a good way to go about it......if I get stressed thinking about what could happen then it will make things akward. And yeah I am not concerned about pressuring myself to do anything, more concerned about not wanting to you know impose on him.......like this weekend I went to stay over night and he had stuff to do so I was going to leave the next day, but then ended up staying the whole weekend because when it came close to time to go the next day he was very depressed/upset about his situation so I did not want to leave him in that state alone and told him I could stay over again which seemed to be what he wanted even though at first he was still going to take me to the bus.
But I always get worried that I'm imposing.....even though I am pretty sure that I did the right thing in that situation.
I think you handled the situation the same way I would have since I am always watching tv and movies I pick up on how to be a good actor by observing their behavior its my only way of coping with having AS but I like acting its fun to do my only flaw is I have a hard time using punctuation when writing a sentence.
Sweetleaf
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10 Oct 2011, 1:07 am
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Yeah that is probably a good way to go about it......if I get stressed thinking about what could happen then it will make things akward. And yeah I am not concerned about pressuring myself to do anything, more concerned about not wanting to you know impose on him.......like this weekend I went to stay over night and he had stuff to do so I was going to leave the next day, but then ended up staying the whole weekend because when it came close to time to go the next day he was very depressed/upset about his situation so I did not want to leave him in that state alone and told him I could stay over again which seemed to be what he wanted even though at first he was still going to take me to the bus.
But I always get worried that I'm imposing.....even though I am pretty sure that I did the right thing in that situation.
I think you handled the situation the same way I would have since I am always watching tv and movies I pick up on how to be a good actor by observing their behavior its my only way of coping with having AS but I like acting its fun to do my only flaw is I have a hard time using punctuation when writing a sentence.
Well yeah in that particular situation there was not much acting involved, other then me thinking about what to do and how to express myself because I'll admit I am not used to trying to be supportive when someone is upset, but I really did care. But yeah sometimes movies or just real life can give good examples of what to do......and just thinking about what I would want someone to do.
Joker
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10 Oct 2011, 1:09 am
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Yeah that is probably a good way to go about it......if I get stressed thinking about what could happen then it will make things akward. And yeah I am not concerned about pressuring myself to do anything, more concerned about not wanting to you know impose on him.......like this weekend I went to stay over night and he had stuff to do so I was going to leave the next day, but then ended up staying the whole weekend because when it came close to time to go the next day he was very depressed/upset about his situation so I did not want to leave him in that state alone and told him I could stay over again which seemed to be what he wanted even though at first he was still going to take me to the bus.
But I always get worried that I'm imposing.....even though I am pretty sure that I did the right thing in that situation.
I think you handled the situation the same way I would have since I am always watching tv and movies I pick up on how to be a good actor by observing their behavior its my only way of coping with having AS but I like acting its fun to do my only flaw is I have a hard time using punctuation when writing a sentence.
Well yeah in that particular situation there was not much acting involved, other then me thinking about what to do and how to express myself because I'll admit I am not used to trying to be supportive when someone is upset, but I really did care. But yeah sometimes movies or just real life can give good examples of what to do......and just thinking about what I would want someone to do.
The key to expressing your feelings is to not be afraid of how the person will react when you tell him or her how you feel about them.
Sweetleaf
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10 Oct 2011, 1:20 am
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Yeah that is probably a good way to go about it......if I get stressed thinking about what could happen then it will make things akward. And yeah I am not concerned about pressuring myself to do anything, more concerned about not wanting to you know impose on him.......like this weekend I went to stay over night and he had stuff to do so I was going to leave the next day, but then ended up staying the whole weekend because when it came close to time to go the next day he was very depressed/upset about his situation so I did not want to leave him in that state alone and told him I could stay over again which seemed to be what he wanted even though at first he was still going to take me to the bus.
But I always get worried that I'm imposing.....even though I am pretty sure that I did the right thing in that situation.
I think you handled the situation the same way I would have since I am always watching tv and movies I pick up on how to be a good actor by observing their behavior its my only way of coping with having AS but I like acting its fun to do my only flaw is I have a hard time using punctuation when writing a sentence.
Well yeah in that particular situation there was not much acting involved, other then me thinking about what to do and how to express myself because I'll admit I am not used to trying to be supportive when someone is upset, but I really did care. But yeah sometimes movies or just real life can give good examples of what to do......and just thinking about what I would want someone to do.
The key to expressing your feelings is to not be afraid of how the person will react when you tell him or her how you feel about them.
That is something I should keep in mind....I mean hell the only way to know how someone will react is by acting and finding out. But yeah I will probably try and get some of my college stuff taken care of this week and text him a bit tommorow but I am thinking I'll give it a couple days before inquiring about the next time I can hang out with him as he has stuff to do as well or maybe I'll just wait till he brings it up I just don't want to seem all clingy or get in the way of whatever he has to do this week.
Joker
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10 Oct 2011, 1:23 am
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Joker wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
It won't last.......sure I finally found someone, but for how long? These things never seem to work out. I guess I have to talk to the guy and really make sure me and him both feel the same about the relationship I guess and I got to make sure and say what I feel and stuff.
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
I just really want to try and make this work, and I hope he feels the same....I guess I am just not sure how to bring that up. I mean I have only known him for a couple weeks but within that we've spent lots of time together. But he's depressed and has been feeling sick or something the past week which kind of worries me but I spent the weekend with him and helped out with some stuff he had to do around the house. I just hope he does not think I was just trying to be nice or something because I really do enjoy his company even if he is way to hard on himself for feeling depressed and being sick.
uhh I am just so inexperianced in relationships......I don't want to over do things(in an attempt to make things better) and cause more stress but i don't want to start coming off as akward and disintrested. So I guess if anyone has good advice about timing like how long you should wait before really bringing up the conversation of which direction things should go and possible long term plans it could be helpful. I'm just kinda stressing because I don't want to mess this up...
It will last just enjoy being with the person you are dating now also wait as long as you can try not to pressure yourself in doing akward or disinterested things I use acting as a way to cope with having AS may be it will work for you it does wonders for me
Yeah that is probably a good way to go about it......if I get stressed thinking about what could happen then it will make things akward. And yeah I am not concerned about pressuring myself to do anything, more concerned about not wanting to you know impose on him.......like this weekend I went to stay over night and he had stuff to do so I was going to leave the next day, but then ended up staying the whole weekend because when it came close to time to go the next day he was very depressed/upset about his situation so I did not want to leave him in that state alone and told him I could stay over again which seemed to be what he wanted even though at first he was still going to take me to the bus.
But I always get worried that I'm imposing.....even though I am pretty sure that I did the right thing in that situation.
I think you handled the situation the same way I would have since I am always watching tv and movies I pick up on how to be a good actor by observing their behavior its my only way of coping with having AS but I like acting its fun to do my only flaw is I have a hard time using punctuation when writing a sentence.
Well yeah in that particular situation there was not much acting involved, other then me thinking about what to do and how to express myself because I'll admit I am not used to trying to be supportive when someone is upset, but I really did care. But yeah sometimes movies or just real life can give good examples of what to do......and just thinking about what I would want someone to do.
The key to expressing your feelings is to not be afraid of how the person will react when you tell him or her how you feel about them.
That is something I should keep in mind....I mean hell the only way to know how someone will react is by acting and finding out. But yeah I will probably try and get some of my college stuff taken care of this week and text him a bit tommorow but I am thinking I'll give it a couple days before inquiring about the next time I can hang out with him as he has stuff to do as well or maybe I'll just wait till he brings it up I just don't want to seem all clingy or get in the way of whatever he has to do this week.
That is the same thing I am doing with the current girl I like she knows I like her I told her with out showing that I was afraid to and she likes honesty over anything else so I just follow my heart.
