Could my New Lady Friend Possibly be an Aspie?

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This thread is a sort-of sequel to my earlier thread: Mind-boggling, NT-like Experience in a Club One Night (link: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt175657.html). I met someone during a bar tour, as described in that thread. (FYI, we're both pushing 30.)

We went on two dates by now. I'm referring to her as "lady friend" because it's too early to properly call her a "girlfriend", since we knew each other for just a week, and "friend" wouldn't fit either, because it's very clear that she's romantically interested, since I already kissed her at the end of the night we met, plus during each date.

Here's what's tipping me off on the possibility of her being an aspie.
-> During the bar tour when we met, she seemed to be a quiet, in-the-background kind of woman. That night, she was pretty quiet until she started talking to me, but joined in group activities (like playing pool) when I, the tour leader, or other people asked her to join.
-> During our first date, she seemed to quite instantaneously switch from calm and rational at dinner to cuddly and romantic when I waited with her for her friend to pick her up.
-> During our second date at a bowling alley, she seemed almost friend-zone-ish, but became flirty when we went to a near-empty bar next door to chill out afterwards.
-> She works a fairly entry-level job, like I do but in a different field, despite pushing 30, and many aspies have trouble advancing far in the career world.
-> Her interests don't fully match those of most women her age. The whole time I spent with her, I have not heard her talk once about fashion, reality shows, or shopping. With that said, she dresses simply but elegantly.
-> She seems to have trouble coming up with things to talk about during conversations, much like I do, but despite that, still cuddles with me and kisses me shortly after.
-> We can go a whole day without calling or texting reach other, but she still acts romantically interested when we see each other in person.
-> She prefers to take buses with weird schedules or routes (when they run), rather than be driven by someone; most NT women outside of New York seem to hate public transit.
-> I find myself not having to do any of the usual hoop-jumping that became almost second nature to me from my past dating experiences.
-> I still do not know at this point how she feels about doing something more intimate than kissing or full-body hugging.

Fellow WP'ers, what's your reading on all this? Is she an aspie? NT with aspie-friendly traits? Simply being accommodating to me? Post your thoughts.

Doesn't really sound aspie-ie.
Sounds like she likes you n has gottten comfortable with you.
I would just accept that she likes you and run with that feeling.
A good way to find out if she's ready for a transition to something more intimate is to kiss her n slide your hands down to her but n gage her reaction.

I got an update, and it's not a good one: friend zone.

So it doesn't matter now if she's an aspie or NT. She lost interest in me, and in most cases, when a woman loses interest, it's permanently. (Yeah yeah, movies tell you differently, but they're wrong, you know.) I don't want to just be friends with her, so I'll explain that friendship is not what I'm looking for and part ways. The only way an opposite-sex friendship can work is for both parties to find each other at least slightly annoying. But it was really nice while it lasted, that's for sure.