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21 Apr 2013, 5:15 pm

I have read that sensory issues can make Sex really hard for aspies. .. what are your experiences?

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21 Apr 2013, 5:16 pm

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21 Apr 2013, 5:43 pm

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21 Apr 2013, 6:00 pm

theNTgirl wrote:

I have read that sensory issues can make Sex really hard for aspies. .. what are your experiences?

what is sensory issues. I had sex before with one women (yeah, Im the champ) . so I guess sensory issue didn't effect me
or my female partner ( who also had autism)

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21 Apr 2013, 6:12 pm

I find a partner to be distracting and I don't enjoy penetration at all. I find it to be painful or just not enjoyable.

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21 Apr 2013, 8:56 pm

Well, as an NT partner, I can say that it will vary a lot depending on your individual partner. I have read that some AS/NT couples have very active sex lives, while some AS partners dislike physical contact, and there are many couples who fall somewhere in between.

I'll talk about my personal experience without being too graphic or lewd: For my girlfriend, sex is very much a textural experience. During sex, she sees me as a series of soft textures. I dislike having my belly squeezed because it makes me feel fat, but she is deeply enamored with the texture and grabs it anyway.

In our relationship there are some theory of mind issues. For example, with the belly-grabbing thing, she enjoys it, so she believes it is universally enjoyable. Since it makes her happy, it must make me happy. Although she cognitively knows it's possible for me to like one thing and her to like another, she doesn't *really* understand how something so wonderful to her would not be enjoyable to her.

For this reason, I often find it easier to "give" than to "receive" since she gets very caught up in her own experience...it's just easier if we both focus on making her "happy".

That being said, people on the spectrum are incredibly sexually diverse. As an NT partner, I cannot really say what my girlfriend is experiencing, but I wanted to share the experience from an NT perspective that may match your own.

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22 Apr 2013, 5:23 am

Sex?! I LOVE IT!! !! ! The feeling of it and the sensation of it oh my its wonderful! The only axiety I have is ejaculating inside with fear of impregnation thank goodness for condoms and birth control though! Oral is jun too!

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22 Apr 2013, 5:58 am

Quote:

lets Talk about Sex

*pants down*

I am ready for the sex talk, what now?

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23 Apr 2013, 9:20 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Quote:

lets Talk about Sex

*pants down*

I am ready for the sex talk, what now?

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23 Apr 2013, 9:40 am

^ Like a boss you say? She kept me waiting and pant-less like a fool since yesterday.

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23 Apr 2013, 2:24 pm

Tell me about it! So hard to drive when your pants are hanging around your ankles!

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23 Apr 2013, 6:44 pm

I have no issues whatsoever with it. I enjoy it. I'd imagine it would depend on what the particular person's sensory issues are.

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23 Apr 2013, 6:48 pm

i love it

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23 Apr 2013, 6:53 pm

It depends. Some things that other people like to do (bj's, kissing, light touching) annoy me very much and/or are painful. Some positions that partners enjoy are painful. ALL the rough stuff and the act itself are often but not always fine. Sometimes, it's just painful and irritating.

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23 Apr 2013, 6:54 pm

hanyo wrote:

I find a partner to be distracting and I don't enjoy penetration at all. I find it to be painful or just not enjoyable.

This is sometimes true for me as well.

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