Aspie guys should watch this

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How to talk to women vs. how not to talk to women

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_0Le7PX6tts

Correction: Shy guys should watch this.

Why you're mixing things up?

Shy aspie guys

I mean this IS an aspergers forum, isn't it?

I don't think shy is a good descriptor for myself as an autistic male. I am more hesitant and indecisive than I would say shy. Shyness to me comes off as emotional disturbed. I have a preponderance to over-think, overcompensate in social relationships and it causes a lot of missteps along the way.

I don't have a hard time talking to women, just talking to women in a way that shows them I am romantically interested in them. I also have a hard time dealing with feelings related to romance because I am often confused as to what that means, how it applies to me, how to recognize those feelings in myself, and how to convey them instead of pretending the feelings don't exist.

On average, women are much more talkative than men. I use this fact and let them make the biggest part of talking while i confine myself to listening.

MetalAspie isn't saying all Aspie guys are shy but what he is saying is this is how you talk to a woman, the video gives an perfect example on how to chat to a woman and manage to grasp her interest while if he didn't take the chance, he would end up like he did in the second part of the video.

MetalAspie knows there are confident Aspies and that but he simply showed this video for people who struggle to put the foot in the door when it comes to these situations and I know I do, I'm a very confident guy but I struggle with making simple small talk, definitely with a female so I think this video that MetalAspie has kindly given us just outlines the base of what to do.

Everyone has their own definition of shy, I highly doubt he intended to come off as offensive. It's generally known that must asperger's are shy, even if we aren't alot of us come off as quirky and such anyways, so the video is still good to watch nonetheless.

At about 1:43, she actually tries to engage him by smiling at him, even though he has been ignoring her. That's more interest than most women show me, even when I try to actively engage them in conversation. He had it easy.