Do you stay friends with your exes?

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I know it's possible, despite what TV says, but do you?

I've had to, after a fashion, because we have two children and we live within a mile of each other.

I wouldn't say "friends" in that I'd turn to him for emotional comfort, but we help each other out in times of emergency/crisis. He turns to me for emotional comfort, which leaves me having to redraw proper boundaries all the time.

Can you be friends with exes? Sure, depending on how and why you broke up. I no longer trust my ex-husband, so I can never truly be friends with him. He doesn't really comprehend friendship or why one should value it, so it's no loss.

I have an ex who is a friend. I hated him for a while after the break up but we made a promise that we wouldn't let our relationship ruin our friendship; that was the conditions to our dating. And I try as much as possible to keep any promises that I make so I forced myself to be friends again even though he hurt me. We were pretty good friends once I got over that

I don't see him anymore because I moved very far away but I am still very fond of him and yet very likely would not date him again. We have a lot of good memories from when we were friends before we dated and those are always fun to reminisce.

I will be honest with you, though, I am still quite physically attracted to him and I feel sexual tension between us. I don't know if he does. So I can definately see how such a situation would be troublesome to maintain the "just friends" facade for two people who have "sexual chemistry" if such a thing exists. I would never sleep with someone when I am in a relationship with another so I am not worried about that for myself, but like I said I can see how it is difficult for others.

depends on lots of things. my ex-fiance just wasn't friend material (manipulative, physically abusive), but a fellow i dated shortly after that just didn't work out as a romance, but became a lifelong friend. i even double-dated with him and his girlfriend.

One ex i'm friends with. The handful of others sort of yes and no. I've just not kept in contact with them, and visa-versa. If we were to ever run into each other it would be friendly, but wouldn't say we stayed 'friends.'

Ex girlfriends yes,
Ex wife No

and not all ex girlfriends, just depends on the situation and how crazy they are/were.

Just had an ex girlfriend look me up last week. I also had one from 20+yrs ago knock on my door a few yrs back. She thanked me for the reason why and how we broke up,....go figure ?? I told her that she needed to grow and discover more about who she was. She married a guy in the military and traveled the world after that. and Yes she is still married to him.

Another ex I told her she should move to california and take the job offer, thats where she belongs, Now, she is happy as can be ! !

I just realized by the type of comments that others are posting, that this thread's title says "exes" - I was thinking "have you ever stayed friends with an ex". So I will have to revise my answer a bit. With the exception of the one listed above, I do not. The others have been lying, manipulative jerks who are not worthy to remain friends with. The one I am friends with has his faults as well but I feel like I understand him to some degree and am willing to be supportive of him regardless.

if you take away the last gf(it's still could be in the"limbo position")
then i have a very close to, if not 100% friend ratio. i've never jumped into a relationship, i've always known her for awial(i'm shy) and what brings us close, usualy keeps us close, for awial or for life.
sexual tension is definately a element, it's all in the friendship. one friend i have, there is none, and for years i called her my sister and she would always say "uw thats sick, we've had sex", it took her about 10 yrs to tell me that she felt the same way. there are some that the tension is there but nothing else, and some where we've been long term, on and off friends w/ benefits

Of the three guys I've dated, I've stayed on good terms with one of them. The other two wanted nothing to do with me.

I'm on good terms with two of my exes. My ex-fiance, well...I'M on good terms with her, but she's not on good terms with me. I keep that b!tzsche at arms length.

OK, so she's not THAT bad, but things went WAY sour towards the end of the relationship and she was desperate to get back together afterwards. I'd be ok if she emailed me, I have no problems with her and my wife being friends on facebook. But I just can't get very close to her. I'm glad she can be mature about it...but I just can't.

I had some bitterness towards a gold-digger I fell hard for, but that's mostly resolved. I'd pee on her if she were on fire, and the last conversations we had a few years ago were pleasant. There was a pretty young thing near-white hair that I miss every day and we still email every now and then. It was a virtual perfect relationship, but we just weren't going the same direction and breaking up was the best thing to do, if painful. The few times we have contact with each other we're still on great terms. Had circumstances been different, she'd be "the one" for sure.

You have to be careful about exes, though. I'm perfectly happy with my wife, so I don't stay in touch with my exes even if we ARE friends. My wife didn't tell me to be like that--I just do it out of respect for her.

From my past seven relationships I am only friends with four of my ex girlfriends

Tried my hardest to stay friends with both exes, it didn't work. My first ex emailed me a while ago and we briefly chatted, so we're on good terms at least, but I could never stay friends with the second one.

Nopes. Wish it could work out, but I think I tried, but none of them feel like talking to me. I guess they think I am selfish and insensitve somehow, or that I should be able to take a hint, tough luck.

No.

Once they all realized that I don't give handouts to people that have abused or betrayed me, they stopped trying, and I just don't feel like dealing with their bullsnot anyway.

I stay civil and facebook "friends".

One ex is facebook friends with me and my wife. We'd only dated a few weeks, then broke up and lost touch.

Another woman who would be an ex if she hadn't done the "let's just be friends" bit in high school... well, I'd be glad to still be friends with her, but my wife hates her with the burning fire of a thousand suns so... just not worth the drama.