Am I a bit of an anomaly?

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Anybody else here have no interest in dating, marriage, or having kids?

Well you're in the love and dating section, so most will have some sort of interest.

But quite a few people on WP have little or no interest in that side of things, so no you're not unusual.

I wasn't sure if it should go here...

Yes here is fine.

On a more personal note, I don't have the greatest interest in having kids. Although I do like them. Some of them, anyway. I've been married, and I've no desire to do that again. Dating is a bit of a nightmare. But having a special someone would be nice.

Like Henbane said, no, you are in no way a anomaly. A good amount of autistics (not just those with Asperger's) do not feel the need for romance or procreation.

I have an intense interest in living alone.

I do not want anyone of any gender or age in my space to live. Having company at certain times to play cards or watch movies is fun, but I really need time alone to avoid getting to a point where I become defocused - as my sponsor says...or unglued as I describe it.

One would think that losing a parent would put being alone in perspective, but it doesn't change how I feel or think.

I don't like dating or marriage either, because I'm not a big fan of calling somebody every single day just because we are official. Officially what? Stuck with each other? The only right anyone has in a relationship is the right to walk away at any time, and marriage takes away that right. Romance is nice though, but dating sucks. As for having kids...why would anyone want to do that? In this world? Maybe in a saner world I would want kids, but I think having kids is a form of child abuse. Casey Anthony did Caylee a favor. At least now she doesn't have to watch the news and be part of a crazy world. I nominate Casey Anthony for mother of the year.

No interest in dating or kids, but, bizarrely, an interest in marriage.

Except for the part about Caylee Anthony, we sound amazingly similar on dating, marriage, and kids!! !!

Not interested either. Never had a date, or a girlfriend. I am 41.

Dating and marriage are things that I could be ok with but only under certain circumstances and with certain people. I just can't feign interest for most people if it's not there though and it's not there for a higher than 99% of the population. I think that I've got a tendency for choosing the girls i like with my brain rather than other parts of my anatomy + being an aspie doesn't make it easy to find a girl that suits my tastes.

I genuinely like some kids. Usually family and kids of people i like though, so maybe just certain types. I think that's why having kids could be ok, my own kids would have traits inherited from both myself and the mother, if i found the right girl my kids would be perfect (to me).

I assume you're asexual. Lots of people on here are.

Dating, yes. Marriage, yes. Kids, no. Problem is, most wives are gonna want kids.

Dating....I want to....but, there are different types of dating:

I do NOT want to serious date right now.
It could be the perfect guy, and I'd still say no.
I want to have fun.

When I get to college in a few weeks, I wanna casual date.
I missed out on that in high school.
I really hope to have another shot at that.

Marriage....well, I think it is an important if I fall in love but if I don't then I know family members who aren't and are fine individuals.

Kids...if I get married, I am having kids.

Most wives will want kids because that is the purpose of "that", for the most part anyways.

I'm short, asexual, socially oblivious and definitely not an alpha type. Not saying that that's all women look at but the odds are very much against me finding a woman who wants my type.

I wouldn't mind having a partner, but I would not be unhappy if I was a lonesome soul. Which I think is what I'm going to be. I don't know, only time will tell.

In the event I do get into a relationship, I certainly would want kids. Only if the other wants them though. And if my partner is a man, no kids.

Marriage? Maybe. Only if my partner wants to. I don't really think marriage is mandatory in a relationship.