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Ok here's my problem. My (aspie) wife loves me to pieces but I'm way too... I don't know, emotional in a positive way? I think about her 24/7 and I usually don't tell her this but I also worry about ridiculous things happening to her a lot. I can never feel comfortable going somewhere unless she's with me. I go places on my own cause I know she likes having time on her own, but it's SO difficult to deal with. I don't want to be annoying/clingy or something so I try my hardest to do things the right way and not complain. I just feel safe and that she's safe when she's with me. Separating means the safety and comfort disappears. I do everything I can to make her happy and she's basically always pleased with me it seems so I'm not really worried about "us". I just want to be able to feel like a normal person so it won't possibly become a real problem for her. It's probably childish that I even think the way I do, so... I need help I think. Any suggestions?
I just don't want to have to rely on her like that, for her sake.

its all about re-training your brain. you have to catch yourself before you start to worry, then say to yourself 'im sure shes fine, and i cant wait to see her in X hours'

worrying all the time wont help you at all, try to catch yourself and stop it

Yeah, basically my mind takes the fact that life is not guaranteed very seriously and I don't want to be separated from people I really care about cause they are so precious to me and I feel like there's always a chance I might never see them again. I'm disgustingly clingy.


EDIT: NOT to say you're disgustingly clingy. I am honestly very glad to hear your relationship is going well apart from the stress worrying puts on you. Just saying others don't like that about me.

I can really relate to that OP because I'm kind of like that myself with my Aspie girl(I'm an Aspie too incase it's relevant). I started taking an anxiety med because I was having some panic-attacks worrying about her & things with our relationship. I think I was kind of codependent due to my anxiety & I'm a lot less anxious now. I still have urges to act clingy & needy but I try to think more logically before I act & I can resist acting really bad usually. I spent a lot of time analyzing things trying to understand why I'm like that & how I can improve that & other things in my life so I could feel a little more secure/confident & be better able to help her with things & be more attractive/appealing to her. I talk to her about my concerns, how I feel about things ect & being able to go to her & talk about anything helps me feel a lot better. I'm still needy & clingy but I'm dealing with it a lot better