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03 Nov 2011, 11:48 am

Real quote from an otherwise decent online dating profile:

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I am not interested in men who still live at home, are happily unemployed, and play video games every night. If you are a hard worker who can sustain on their own, and have the experience of starting a life from pretty much scratch, than I'll be into that.


As someone still living at home and unhappily unemployed, I can't help but be someone bothered by how many girls in my age range think that just because I don't have a job (or my own place), that I am a directionless loser.

As much as I don't want my unemployed status to be a dealbreaker (and I'm still casually looking), I've started to become content with the fact that I probably wouldn't have a serious chance for a relationship until I'm working and living on my own (whenever that may be).



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03 Nov 2011, 12:45 pm

Wise decision.

Keep in mind that the more you grow, the more girls would expect from you.
For example, for a 20 yo guy the job thing wouldn't be an issue but girls would expect from him to be a student at least.

For your age, girls would expect you to be in a mid-career already and,in your culture at least, even having a flat of your own.

For a 35, a career....etc



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03 Nov 2011, 10:39 pm

I also think this is a great decision. Aside from the obvious stigma associated with being that age and unemployed, it is better to focus on employment, as finding a job will give you increased confidence and life satisfaction. Women are very attracted to someone with confidence and a positive attitude, and I am optimistic that gaining a job (or even having a few good interviews) will assist you with both of these things. Best of luck.


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