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02 Nov 2011, 6:43 am

someone i knew introduced me to her man servant, so i went along with it. within minutes to the very end, i saw exactly why he was giving her expensive gifts on a weekly basis.

he was lacking many good personality qualities, and used money to compensate for it. of course the day that he stops spending money, it's going to end. it seems like he's oblivious to the obvious signs he's being used and while he may have actually been a nice guy, he did get sex out of her early, of course artificially with money and a little pressure.

i saw the two in conversation and knew exactly why he needed to compensate with money.

the conversation matter was entirely nuetral. "so how is school", "what time are your exams", "the cream of brocolli soup is good". nothing interesting, unique, personal, or thought provoking.

there was no humor. it was dead. he would respond to what she said with "okay" or "i agree", and never came up with thoughtful response, witty comeback, funny quip. no teasing or sarcasm. just narrow questions and one word answers.

so i've spotted mistakes for me not to make.

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02 Nov 2011, 6:56 am

Boring guy trades money for a woman he wants.
Attractive women trades sex for the money she wants.

What's the problem? If he doesn't know what he's doing it's unlikely he'd shower her with gifts.

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02 Nov 2011, 7:12 am

I am not at all saying it is unfair for the man. All's fair game.

What I am saying is this thread is about how to avoid being in a situation where you have nothing except money that pleases a woman.

See my comment on the thread you created Hale

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02 Nov 2011, 7:22 am

minervx wrote:

What I am saying is this thread is about how to avoid being in a situation where you have nothing except money that pleases a woman.

Oh, fair enough then. I guess it's not a good place to be in.

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02 Nov 2011, 9:01 am

off topic- hale, your avatar quality is going downhill fast. im afraid of what the next one wil be

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02 Nov 2011, 10:02 am

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off topic- hale, your avatar quality is going downhill fast. im afraid of what the next one wil be

I personally am looking forward to it; if the downhill slide continues the next one will be hilarious.

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02 Nov 2011, 10:19 am

minervx wrote:

he was lacking many good personality qualities, and used money to compensate for it. of course the day that he stops spending money, it's going to end. it seems like he's oblivious to the obvious signs he's being used and while he may have actually been a nice guy, he did get sex out of her early, of course artificially with money and a little pressure.

Exactly, it's false attraction, the moment he stops paying her or lavishing her with gifts, she will drop him. The sad thing is that this guy is dependent on his money to get him by in life, if he stays with this girl, he won't be challenged to ever develop game, wit or humor or push himself out of his comfort zone, he will always be stuck in a vicious cycle. Why would anyone want sex with someone that isn't truly attracted to them? I don't know.

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02 Nov 2011, 11:17 am

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im afraid of what the next one wil be

Probably Tubgirl.

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02 Nov 2011, 11:20 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

MXH wrote:

off topic- hale, your avatar quality is going downhill fast. im afraid of what the next one wil be

I personally am looking forward to it; if the downhill slide continues the next one will be hilarious.

I agree she is going to have to keep outdoing herself with the hilarious avatars

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02 Nov 2011, 11:30 am

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Yes, but I might point out that the arrangement is mutual, if she stopped "putting out" he would drop her just as quickly.

As always, it's definitely not my cup 'o tea (although I will admit to having dabbled in it) but as long as no deception/manipulation is involved such arrangements are fine for those who engage in them.

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02 Nov 2011, 11:43 am

I think you are judging OP. Maybe the girl really isn't bothered by those so called negative qualities in him & perhaps she's not with him for the money. He may of got sex early with her because the girl likes sex or because she felt safe with him.

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02 Nov 2011, 12:16 pm

Wolfheart wrote:

minervx wrote:

Well said!

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02 Nov 2011, 12:36 pm

minervx wrote:

it seems like he's oblivious to the obvious signs he's being used and while he may have actually been a nice guy, he did get sex out of her early, of course artificially with money and a little pressure.

minervx wrote:

there was no humor. it was dead. he would respond to what she said with "okay" or "i agree", and never came up with thoughtful response, witty comeback, funny quip. no teasing or sarcasm. just narrow questions and one word answers.

1. he is using her too (bolded)

2. i don't see any niceness in your example. he convinced her to have sex with him through the use of pressure and money, and doesn't able to have a good conversation with her (she may be the same way, but you only mentioned his lack of conversation). is that what you are saying, that he was NOT nice? there is indeed a lesson here, if you are planning to pay for sex with someone who is going to use you for your money.

she doesn't seem nice either, for the record.

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02 Nov 2011, 7:42 pm

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off topic- hale, your avatar quality is going downhill fast. im afraid of what the next one wil be

lol! I had one once of a fat geek holding up his man boobs - but I got too many complaints from WP members so I thought I'd better keep man boobs out of the equation.

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02 Nov 2011, 9:27 pm

minervx wrote:

How much is he shelling out? That's the more important matter!

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03 Nov 2011, 11:38 pm

What's wrong with trading in p**** futures with cash?

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