OldFashioned wrote:
...Like I love you!
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Do you think I can mess it up if I declare my unconditional love during a date or early on in a relationship? Once I'm in love, it's that, I'm in love not for any particular reason, I just am and I want to say it.
yes. if you tell someone you love them when they dont love you back (too soon), it puts a massive block on the relationship.
this is because now she knows you love her, but she doesnt love you. she feels obligated to reciprocate the feeling that she doesnt have, and it pushes her further away from you instead of bringing the two of you closer together.
to be completely honest, i wouldnt tell someone i loved them until i had dated them for at least 6 months (and even then thats probably too soon.)
i think its best if the girl knows you like her, and are interested in her, but wonders what she could do to make you say 'i love you'. it keeps you a 'challenge' which is important for a healthy relationship, in my opinion.