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04 Nov 2011, 6:02 am

ok so i made a post about this girl i was seeing about the conflicting traits of ADHD and aspergers and how to combat this.

well, i did get tired. went into my bubble. Now she appears to be ignoring me. of course i apologised explained, she said she was fine with it. However i haven't seen her in a week. i only have 3 weeks untill i return to the UK and now i'm genuinely worried, i'd quite like some closure on the situation. my last post on this was slightly lighter in tone. but now, panic. how can i revive the passion? or at least get her to bring some closure?

heres the previous post if you're interested. http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt178744.html


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04 Nov 2011, 11:57 am

what do you mean by this part:

banana45 wrote:
well, i did get tired. went into my bubble.

do you mean that you pushed her away or shut her out?

do you know why you did that?


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04 Nov 2011, 7:34 pm

banana45 wrote:
ok so i made a post about this girl i was seeing about the conflicting traits of ADHD and aspergers and how to combat this.

well, i did get tired. went into my bubble. Now she appears to be ignoring me. of course i apologised explained, she said she was fine with it. However i haven't seen her in a week. i only have 3 weeks untill i return to the UK and now i'm genuinely worried, i'd quite like some closure on the situation. my last post on this was slightly lighter in tone. but now, panic. how can i revive the passion? or at least get her to bring some closure?

heres the previous post if you're interested. http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt178744.html


The best possible thing you can do is just move on, if she doesn't forgive you, let it go. If you seek her approval or become too needy far too much, you'll lose attraction fast and you won't be rekindling any kind of passion.



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05 Nov 2011, 8:09 am

hyperlexian wrote:
what do you mean by this part:

banana45 wrote:
well, i did get tired. went into my bubble.

do you mean that you pushed her away or shut her out?

do you know why you did that?


what I mean is sometimes when i'm around people too much i just switch off because i find it so tiring to deal with, i tend to spend a day or two at home without any form of interaction untill i feel more energetic about socialising again. i don't know why it happens at all.

and i agree entirely wolfheart i've done as much and now just wait or forget i suppose. ho hum.



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05 Nov 2011, 8:30 am

banana45 wrote:
what I mean is sometimes when i'm around people too much i just switch off because i find it so tiring to deal with, i tend to spend a day or two at home without any form of interaction untill i feel more energetic about socialising again. i don't know why it happens at all.


Have you ever considered Asperger's Syndrome? :wink:

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and i agree entirely wolfheart i've done as much and now just wait or forget i suppose. ho hum.


I know what you mean about needing closure, otherwise you'll always wonder "what if...?"

I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but in the past I've asked women to explicitly reject me just to break the "spell"

Gawd, I'm not very good at this "relationships" thing... :roll:

Good luck! :)



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05 Nov 2011, 9:22 am

ok i see what you mean by the bubble. it is very typically aspie, for sure. she may have thought you were not interested anymore if you didn't contact her for a couple of days. this doesn't help your current situation, but in future you may want to let a girlfriend know in advance you have episodes like that so that she will not be too upset - it works better than apologies afterward.

for this current female, i don't know if you will get closure. it sounds like she is passive-aggressively treating you in the way she perceived she was treated but to a much worse degree. best you can do is make the best of your time doing other activities and trying not to worry about her too much if she won't be assertive enough to actually break up with you.

if she is at least contacting you by phone, email or chat, you might want to bluntly ask if it is over (or break up with her yourself if you think it is going nowhere).


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05 Nov 2011, 7:41 pm

OK thanks guys, you've been a real help. :)


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