being approached (guys)

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typically in western society, men are the ones who approach women, but with some of my aspie traits, i need to work on responding better when people approach me.

i was approached by an attractive women (who i just realized after a while there is a high chance she is interested in me), and i responded in a very defensive manner. unexpected it was, i was taken out of my daily routine and a little confused. i metaphorically held her at arms length because i did not know what direction to take the conversation in. typically, that doesnt happen, but in this case i was unprepared for someone to approach me, so it did. i didn't make any huge gaffes, so i dont think its over, but next time i see her, i'm going to approach her and be a little more aggressive.

any guys on here had the same problem?

Yes, I am some what like that, If I am out an a woman is starts a conversation, I don't realize they are interested, I think they're just being nice.

With internet dating sites, it's a bit more clear though, but it's not real life until you finally do meet.

I am completely unable to discern if they're interested or not, but I'm pretty good at spontaneous conversation.

I don't spend a lot of time in public venues, but it's not unusual for me to be approached. They will have to hit me over the head with a billboard saying "I'm interested" before I can recognize this, though.

Not only in the western society.....

It depends on who is approaching me.

A couple of years ago I was approached by a very cute classmate of about my age for school related issues and I didnt know how to respond. I tried to respond properly but most of the times I just made a fool of myself, apparently she found that extremely funny and once I got used to her wanting to be around me I did become more comfortable around her.


A month ago I was approached by some sort of cougar at a party(its what happens when you hang out with people that are twice your age most of their friends are twice your age as well) and somehow I didnt find her to be threatening or anything and we had a great time(nothing happened but we both had a blast of a night and we couldnt stop laughing most of the time). How did I know she was interested? she grabbed me from my chair forced me to take part on a photo I didnt belong to(seriously you look at it and you wonder what the hell Im doing there)and forced me to dance with her for a while, at that moment I made it clear I wanted to have a laugh as well and we ended up doing the silliest things ever: tag-teamed playing musical chairs...(some of us reached a point of drunkenness where that seemed like a great game so we figured why not?)

^ not yet, it would take a couple of decades at least I am afraid.

UK only accepts long-bearded Islamists who are outlaws in their countries, I dunno why.