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I was at a big college party last Friday.
I saw this hot girl in the corner who looked quite alone (and a tad melancholy),
and nobody was talking to either of us, so she came over and started talking to me.
At her request I drew her portrait then, and said I'd finish it later and mail it to her.
When I left the party she gave me a big hug.
I got the impression by the things she said and her body language that
she was was inviting me to be forward with her (I could be wrong),
but I didn't know how to respond at the time. (it's very hard to talk and draw simultaneously. )

I'd like to respond in a letter when I mail the painting tomorrow,
but I can't figure out how to say 'I want to get to know you better' without sounding too creepy or presumptuous
(or conversely sounding too up-tight/formal).
Is "You seem nice. Let's have coffee." too cliche?
I could be wrong about her impression of me but, so that's a margin of error I have to consider also when I write.
(I shouldn't have to mention here that as an aspie man, talking to women is extremely difficult for me.)

"you seem nice. let's have coffee." is great. that's just about how i asked my husband out on our first date.

I think brevity is best. No heart on the sleeve stuff.

How about go with what already worked...art. Invite her to a gallery/museum.

^^^this. something art-related will give you an automatic topic of conversation to fill the gaps (as long as you talk about other stuff too, of course). art is in your comfort zone, and you may have an easier time doing something slightly active than sitting awkwardly in a cafe. good luck!

I like that idea. Lots of local cafes specialize as galleries so maybe I can work in an invitation with a double-objective (art & coffee).
It's too bad I don't know more about what art styles she prefers.
(I don't want my personal aesthetic tastes to make my suggestion appear too self-serving.)

Well I'm sure she is more interested in being with you then where you are going, just grow a pair and be yourself around her (not being mean, I use grow a pair as an encouragement) and then when your at the art gallery, ask her what she likes so you know better next time and have a better understanding of her.

She gave you a hug. Unless she was drunk while doing it, I think you have a pretty good chance.

I would enjoy being exposed to new types if art, and I wouldn't think you were being self-serving. I would enjoy being in the company of someone knowledgeable and self-assured (that's really sexy to women). If it would lead to a second date, that would be the time to take her to a gallery (or other place entirely) that catered to her interests, once you've learned what her interests are. You've gotten good advice. Wishing you luck!

Darn. This painting is taking longer than I anticipated,
and I still don't have a package to mail it in.
I'll mail her a quick handwritten note in the morning with my contacts
and invite her to meet me somewhere to pick up the painting:
probably at a gallery/cafe in accordance with the advice,
(but possibly on campus so I can invite her to a gallery in person).
I can't focus on logistics this late at night.
Better snooze before I attempt to think ... -__-

Sounds actually like a very good plan, Noogie. Do it! I think "You seem nice, let's have coffee." Is the best thing to go for here; She gave you a hug, after all.

I dropped the letter in the mail:
a consice message
covering the afformentioned points,
written with brush & ink
(but no fancy caligraphy).

Hope you didn't overdo it.
Should've only mailed a picture of you and your phone number on a small piece of paper.
Understated but to the point.

I had told her I would finish the drawing/painting and give it to her,
so if I omit mention of it by letter she might be suspicious.
I used blocky, angular text to be assertive but not dainty.
She saw that I carry my brushes and paper everywhere,
so I don't think she'll be too surprised by that—It's my bread & butter.
It was about 20 words long.

Do you by any chance go to an art school?

Because I go to one too and my luck with the ladies has pretty much sky-rocketted within the past year. Artsy girls are the best because most of them are kinda awkward too, but in like a cute way. So it's ok to be an awkward guy, just as long as you're cute about it and not a creeper or stalker (there seems to be alot of them at my school too....)

I'm an art student. She's a different major.
I like the art girls: seems like a wide variety of personality types.
Unfortunately, my luck is still rotten.
Every time I get to know one well enough thru class, I find out she has a bf.
Yet it is such a relief to study in a field where eccentricity and imagination
are not reprimanded and shunned, but instead relied upon.

What qualifies as a creeper? Some people tell me I'm creepy because I like to draw live
portraits of people who don't notice me. It's more spontaneous that way—less artificial.
(I ask their permission before posting online.)