Should I ask her out?

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I posted something earlier about this woman who sits next to me in one of my classes that has been not only been showing body language, but also has been trying to start conversations with me every class. To continue from my old post, last class she asked to borrow a piece of paper from me, but was talking about the weather again like when she borrowed the pen from me the previous class. Just today was a little different though. The professor was in the middle of his lecture and she turned to me and asked me if I understand what he is talking about, because I guess it was going over her head. I wasn't expecting it and it was so sudden. She darts her head to face me and looked deep into my eyes and asked me that and I just told her that I understand it for the most part, but when he speaks using a lot of jargon it can be hard to follow and that it seems to require all of my focus. Then another thing happened. I asked the professor if there was going to be a quiz on Monday and he kind of got a little mad and said something like: "Your really asking me about a quiz now?" I was felt he was being a little rude because of his unnecessary tone with me so I wound up smarting off to him and that woman who sits next to me looked at me and actually laughed pretty loud. I think she thought it was genuinely funny because a few people thought what I said was funny too, but she laughed louder than the others and looked at me too. I also noticed that she was sitting with one leg hanging over the other and the leg that was hanging over the other was pointing towards me and she was doing that thing where she was slipping her foot in and out of her slip on that was hanging in the air. Does this woman like me and want to be more than friends? Can the women on here please explain if this is an obvious case and should I just ask her out already?

Dude, you're in a complex dating situation, and you are uncomfortable with dating.

I'd skip it. Too much drama and you're focusing on school right now anyway.

Eventually, you will want to have sort of plan to get comfortable with dating.

Start out with something simple. Ask her if she'd like to have coffee with you.

Well she asked me if I understood what he was going over, so I was thinking that she may have wanted me to explain things to her and maybe I could ask her if she wants to study with me? Perhaps she wants to do more than studying, but I don't how asking her this would be awkward at all after how many times she has started conversations with me.

Is she cute? Do you like this girl?

She's obviously sending you clues. I'd converse with her briefly, and then ask her out for coffee on campus.

if you are attracted to her, and interested in getting to know her better, i'd ask her if she'd like to study with you some random day.

then one of the times you get done studying (hopefully you can arrange it so you are studying BEFORE dinner time), you can ask her if she'd like to get a bite to eat with you.

it sounds to me like she likes you. maybe you are reading the wrong signals, but to me it sounds very clear. it should be pretty straight forward if you put a bit of effort into it. just make sure you never act desperate, needy, clingy, or like you dont have a lot of confidence. these are all mega-turnoffs and will nuke the relationship before it ever had a chance to grow.

'leading' is also important. try to take the lead when you can. i think most girls are naturally attracted to this.

also, try to touch her. obviously not innapropriately, but you need to make physical contact to show her you arent afraid of cooties. touch naturally escalates a relationship a LOT, so this is paramount if you want to end up with her.

i'd do some research bro. look up any of the aforementioned suggestions for further details on how to go about doing them. theres a ton of good information about all of it if you just look a little bit. obviously dont listen to everything you hear (some information is garbage), but you can really learn a lot if you know what to look for and what to pull from things.

is this the girl with a boyfriend?

tl;dr

I'm a guy mind you, but it seems that she genuinely likes you.

The best thing you can do is try to ask her out, the worst she can say is no.

This.

Sounds like she could be interested in you but she might be stringing you along just to help her with school subjects or something.

Try to find out if she has a boyfriend.

Try to arrange a study meeting.

After that try to arrange a meeting that isnt related to school and see how she responds.

That should make her intentions clear enough.

yeah, i had written a long response and got to thinking it was likely the same girl he spoke of before who had a boyfriend. i don't agree with cheating, so i am not too comfortable giving advice to help the OP get a girl to cheat on her boyfriend. plus, it's messy and likely to cause problems if/when other people in class find out. but i may not be correct in my memory.

good advice by the way.

Well I completely agree with the idea of just asking her out and if she has a boyfriend, I will just forget about her completely because I don't agree with dating women who are in a relationship. Yes, I do like this girl and I think she likes me. That is the only reason why I am posting about these situations. I hope nobody thinks I get off by stealing peoples' girlfriends because that is messed up. If I ask her out and I find out that she broke up with her boyfriend, then I guess that is a completely different story.