Racial dating preferences. bad/good?

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Okay, so this should be interesting...

I just found myself watching these two videos, and totally wasn't looking for anything like them, I was just watching some "xtranormal" ones, and saw the first of the two below, which led to seeing the other one.


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Of course I'm white, but you may not know that my wife is brown. Tell you what, and I don't care who it offends: I really like that my wife is brown, and that I'm white. (Okay, let's all get bent out of shape because Ragtime is happy about things society says he shouldn't be. Whatever. )

Anyway, discuss racial dating preferences, and their relationship to racial issues -- i.e. is it racist? Or, does it help bridge rifts between "races" (I actually hate that word unless it applies to the human race, but nonetheless it's a common term to refer to ethnicity)?

Some people are so starchy, petulant, and rigid when it comes to being politically correct about race. And I mostly want to hear from those people! Tell me why it's a bad thing to prefer a certain color of skin, and/or a certain culture, even before you meet a person you'll end up dating. Do I think interbreeding is the answer to world peace, or even the answer to racism? Of course not -- I know humans all too well to think that they wouldn't STILL find differences to hate, no matter if we were all the same color or not.

Asian chicks are hot.

Also, in general, if I were to pick a wife I'd probably likely be better off with an Asian girl or an Eastern European girl, or maybe Scandinavian, but they're a bit too socially liberal thinking for me.

But what you said though, it's kind of surprising that a lot of white guys don't know that black girls like them. White guys simply don't make them available enough for black girls. However, I'm personally hesitant about a black girl, honestly, because if she's like, from "the hood" then it has a host of issues. But yeah, a white guy is attractive to lots of black girls because we're almost the opposite of a lot of black guys, we're generally more gentle, well educated, etc. Again, generally, not always. And then white girls like black guys sometimes because they're more assertive, charming, etc, generally.

Me, I have racial preferences and prejudices, and it's not really necessarily bad, it's just a way to categorize people. We do it here with Aspergers and NTs, etc. Basically, a lot of the people on here are like "NTs are the devil!!111" and some forum member's posts sound like Stormfront posts replacing black people with NTs. We all categorize and make judgements about people, the main thing I see is just not to be so rigid about it that you either miss out on your own opportunities (ie, for all I know there's some black girl that's perfect for me) and also for the purpose of not being like, unkind to people. So there's a difference between having your prejudices, recognizing them as such, and realizing the validity of them in some cases, but also to ignore them in others.

And yeah, I'd probably much rather date an Asian or Eastern European girl, they seem to be the hottest, most intelligent, and like, best ever girls. So there.

I say whatever works for whoever, in their own time, at the right time in their life.

Obviously the person matters most but, whether dating, engaging, or marrying a different ethnicity either turns you on or repels you is really no trouble. Some of my best friends are all about Asian girls for instance, for me they're around the bottom of my list and latin/medditeranean/middle-eastern/african would be well ahead. Its not to say that if I met the right Asian girl where we had everything in common and clicked like *that* and chemistry was dead-aim that it wouldn't happen either.

I think the only thing we may have to admit is that there may be some tie-in as well between the types of women we date, their ethnicities, and the number and types of other guys who want to come and test us over it. Aside from that there's really not much to worry about and, particularly if you can handle yourself, there's little reason to worry about that aspect even.

could be a thing of opposites attracting. Light people going for dark people and vice versa. Genetically we are programmed to do that to an extent.

I just find it an interesting experience. I thought it would wear off, but it hasn't. Close friends or spouses coming from two different backgrounds is just really neat to me. We also share an admittedly-very-slight kinship: I'm half-Jewish, and she's a small part Arab. I swear that helps keep our minds in tune with each other somehow, because the bond we share -- as far as always understanding each other's meaning and feelings -- just seems instinctive. I know Abraham is a really long way back in the gene pool, but I at least imagine this kinship, whether or not it is actually detectable.

I see no issue to that, im more attracted to caucasian womenthan any other type. Though ive found women of other types to be attractive too

I find black women more attractive emotionally. I respect their frank approach. Often they are very experienced dating wise too.

I like the way white women look. I'm white and (subconsciously) if I wanted kids I'd want white kids.

Most of my crushes have been white or Latina (I'm black) but I'm not adverse to women from my own race. It's just, with me having AS traits, being light-skinned, being deaf (how many deaf black people do you know?), and not being into the whole black thug stereotype, it makes most black women not seem to like me. Not that many women like me anyway, but with women from my own race, it's worse. If you have ANYTHING wrong with you, that's it, you're out.

I get the "oh you act white" thing from them, which is dumb because you can't act like a race (yet they never get on other races that act hood, gee, wonder why? ) So I've basically been conditioned to like girls outside of my race for the most part. I'd say about 60% of them have been white, 20% have been black, and 20% other.

Also, I don't think having a preference is inherently bad or good.